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Sunday, 21 September 2014

How To Get Success And Deal With Frustration

by: Rob Bom

It can be very frustrating when you think you have everything you need to succeed, but still not achieving any results. Lots of people quit when things get too complicated or takes too much time. I will give you 3 steps that might help you to still get what you want, without pressing the exit button(quitting)

Most quit as soon as they hit a wall. To get some achievements you will need to break through that wall as this will be the only way to get to the other side. If you are staying behind the wall, you will never see what is behind it.

1. There is no success without failure

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, if you want to achieve success. There was a commercial a while ago where Michael Jordan talks about all his failures. He missed a million times when he was shooting at the rim, but by practice and focus he got past it and was able to shoot 3 pointers without any problems. Stop, don’t go to youtube yet, read on…

2. Evaluate where you can do better

Don’t focus on what you do wrong, but look at what you could do better. When you have determined what improvements you can make, decide what actions you need to take. Plan them in and and of-course take them!

3. Don’t stress yourself out

One of the major obstacles I ran across was stressing myself out if I could not get something done in one day. I wanted to achieve results so badly that I stressed myself out by doing more and more. However it is not about doing more, it is about doing things smarter. Try to find people that have the results you are looking to get and speak to them. They might give you advise on how to get things done smarter.

Stay positive and you will achieve the results you are looking for. Most are not able to stay positive which leads to failure, quitting. Doing something wrong is not failing, it is self development. Quitting or being feared to do something is failure. Not doing what you need to do will keep you in the same box.

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Wednesday, 17 September 2014

Have A Hard Habit To Break?

Do You Have a Habit Hard To Break?

by: Terje Brooks Ellingsen

If You have a habit hard to break it means that you’re currently lacking control over a certain behavior or set of behaviors in a type of situation. The first question that comes to my mind is: How do we really create a habit – bad or good? A habit is not created the first time we do it. The clue here is repetition; we create a habit by repeating it. And the more we repeat it the more resistant it becomes.

The founders of NLP , Bandler and Grinder are using a concept called “streamlining”. They explain this concept as a natural process whereby our minds learn which aspects of a thought process is important and which is not. Let me give an example:

When I was about 5 years old somebody offered to shake my hand for the first time in my life. I was very pleased because this nice woman was treating me like an adult. I looked at her outstretched hand and then, remembering what others did in this situation, clumsily lifted mine and moved it towards hers. I remember not getting the positioning quite right, and she compensated and smiled. Now, the next time I got a little better at shaking hands and soon I didn’t even need to think about it. When somebody offers you their hand to say hello, you don’t think about it at all. It’s automatic behaviour. Even if you do think about it, you can’t help lifting your hand up. This is what we call a habit.

Good habits are hardly mentioned – they are not important and not on the agenda. It is the bad habits that cause trouble and it is these habits – the habits we want to get rid of – that means most for us. It is self improvement that matters, make our habits better.

You can break a habit by deliberately practicing a new or different one. Many of us blame our unconscious mind for our bad habits. But even the most enlightened and spiritual person has bad habits. So this seems to indicate that they are not only outside of their conscious control, but even outside of the control of the unconscious mind as well. The fact is that your unconscious mind can break an old habit and learn a new one without your needing to know about it. You can also break a habit by making it seem uncomfortable, like boredom for instance. Our minds are very keen on doing what feels comfortable and the same mechanism can be used for making a new and more functional habit.

But what about the good habits – there are some of them as well. When Michael Jordan was asked to miss the basket when throwing for a TV commercial, it took him around 20 attempts. Even good habits can be difficult to break, but why would one want to break them?

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