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Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Believe In Thyself

Strategies To Help You Believe In Yourself

by: Marlene Challis




Your mind is the most powerful supercomputer in the world. It’s a pity if you would not be able to explore and utilize its vast potentials.


Many people are using just a very tiny portion of their mind’s abilities. Be different and learn how to use your mind’s capacity to the fullest!


In the mind, positive and negative thoughts are always in conflict. What wins among them is shown through our actions and behavior towards things.


To help you believe in yourself, self help motivation source has some simple things that you can do.


Life is full of surprises and exciting moments that by simply looking at them, we miss ourselves. We are so busy doing unremarkable things out there – in the mirror, on the phone, on the PC, in front of the TV and radio, overtaking, adventuring, and endlessly seeking power and status. This is when car racers feel alive and excited – when they are in a near death opportunity! Imagine that.


Actually, that is when we also feel enthusiastic – with adrenalin-pumping, hair-raising, goosebumps-appearing incidents or when one is over excited, can show off, and risks fearful flights – that we cannot see what’s real in our lives. We make mistakes. We miss turnings. We lose or forget things. And this is all because we lose reign of our senses. Only when there are accidents, car crash, a thump on the head, a slap in the face, a comment, a synchronized moment, a glance from a beautiful person, song of a sweet bird, the rising or setting of the sun, a shooting star, or the rhythm of the waves do we stop for a second and appreciate and reflect these things with our minds.


Time seems to slow down in moments of awe, devotion, speechlessness, and high spirits. We become aware of beautiful, fresh, sweet, shining, and glowing moments that only at these times are we awake, truly alive, and with a calm and serene mind.


They say that we will never really know what we have until it’s gone. So, shall we wait for some things to disappear before we appreciate them? Not exactly. In fact, the mind can and should be trained to focus on the brighter things in life, no matter how little or uninteresting they are, so that negative thoughts shall not succeed in creating an undesirable future for us. Nothing is too late for change.


Here are some ways of training the mind on positive thinking:


• Start the day with cheers and smiles.


Your whole day depends on how you greet the morning. Therefore, as long as you welcome it with energy and high spirits, everything will go okay. You don’t want the rest of the day to get ruined, do you? Come on, smile! It doesn’t cost anything but is worth everything.


• Ask for guidance.


Only God knows what we will be having on the day ahead of us. He will surely appreciate a few minutes of praying and asking for guidance from Him. Also, have faith on Him that He is more than willing to grant our requests as long as it is for our own good. With God as our guide, we don’t have any reason not to say and believe in the thought that I can do this. I can make it through this day. Nothing is impossible. After all, God is with me.


• Plan the day ahead.


To avoid mistakes that will cause negative output on your daily activities that will later on become negative thoughts, it is better to plan your work first; after which, work your plan. Make sure today’s goals are clearly defined and absorbed by your mind. This can be done even before you get out of bed each day, just so immediate addressing issues as they arise can be avoided.


• Keep your mind focused on important things.


Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize practicing your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Concentrate on things that need to be taken seriously, but at the same time, take time to relax and enjoy. This way, favorable results may take place.


• Be detached from the outcome.


They say that life is like a Ferris Wheel; sometimes, you’re on the top, and sometimes at the bottom. This means that there will be times in our lives where some things would not turn out according to what we want them to be. Don’t be annoyed if you don’t get what you desire. However, do your best in everything you do. Only, don’t get too attached on the probable results that may only cause disappointments and upsets.


• Try new things and challenges.


See learning and changes as opportunities. There’s nothing wrong in changing attitudes and routines as long as they are for the good and improvement of who you are and what you do. Doing new things may include considering more options for a project, meeting new people from different places, asking lots of questions. Through this, the flow of thinking is directed to improvement and negative thoughts will be easily eradicated.


• Balance your desires.


We live in a place of opposites and duality – gain and loss, pleasure and pain, light and dark, male and female, love and hate. This is how the cycle of life goes. We can never have all the good things in life at the same time. In love, there will always be someone who gets hurt. In wealth, there will always be people who will not be fortunate enough. Measure and moderation is the primary key.


• Be realistic.


Make sure that what you want is something possible. Hoping for something to happen which would never really materialize in real life will only bring you disappointment. For instance, you wish to lose weight. Therefore, you have to set a goal and act on appropriate measures within a period of time to achieve what you wish. Hey, No one can get slimmer overnight. Keep track of your mental and physical health. This way, you will know how far you can keep believing.


• Know yourself.


There is no other person in the world who can tell who you really are. Know your passions, favorites, and principles. Spend some quality time by yourself – reading, listening to music, day dreaming, and the likes. If you know yourself completely, you will be aware of how far can you go physically, mentally, and emotionally.


• Love yourself.


Before you expect for other people to love and adore you, it is always you who needs to love yourself first. Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself as much as you praise others once in a while. When you start feeling confident about yourself, positive thoughts will naturally flow to your mind.


• Laugh. Enjoy. Have fun.


Looking at the brighter side of life starts with entertainment and pleasure. Laughter is the best medicine, so they say. Whether your illness is physical or emotional, a few laughs and giggles can help you throw away heavy baggage such as anxiety, disappointment, or nervousness.


• Keep a list of your goals and actions.


Familiarize yourself with things you want to accomplish and with the ways you must undertake to complete them. By the time you are certain of what you want to do and carry out in your life, a stronger mind and will power will exist within you.


• Associate with positive people.


In every classroom, work place, or simply anywhere you go where there are groups of people, look for optimistic ones. There are lots of them, I’m sure. Associate with them, hang-out, discuss matters. They can help you build self-confidence and self-esteem.


• Make it a habit to ask questions.


This is not equal to dumbness and ignorance; rather, it is associated with seeking more information and understanding matters clearly. With more knowledge, there is also more power.


• Be open.


We have to accept the fact that we don’t know everything. And that we are continuously learning in every place we go, with every people we meet as everyday passes. We should not close our minds to new ideas and information that comes our way. Our mind is so spacious that it is impossible to fill it up completely. Thus, we should accept worthy things that may help us become better and brighter persons.


• Have trust in other people.


Although it may seem difficult and risky to give trust to just any people, when you believe in them or confident on what they are doing for you, doubts and negative judgments on them will be unnecessary. Also, it will bring harmonious relationships between you and your colleagues.


• Forgive and forget.


Mistakes and failures are the root causes of negative thinking. If we somehow learn to let go of all the pain, agony, and fear we try to keep inside our hearts and minds, then there will be nothing more to block our clear thoughts from being expressed. Forgive yourself for committing mistakes and forget these mistakes.


• Learn from experiences.


Learning inside the classroom is different from learning outside it. In school, one learns the lesson first before taking an exam; while in real life, one takes the test first before learning the lesson. This test in the real life is our experiences. If we failed in that test, i.e. the experience is not so good, we study the situation and learn the lesson. From here, we can avoid committing the same mistake twice.


• Count your blessings.


Focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have. Absence of our desires will only bring discontentment and disappointment that will only waste our time. Instead, be thankful and appreciative with all the blessings we receive.


• Kiss your worries goodbye.


At the end of everyday, before going to sleep, there is no need to keep bad experiences and unhappy moments that had happened in the day within you. Let them go, throw them out of the window and kiss them goodbye. Dream sweetly. As a new day unfolds, new hope arises. Keep believing. Always have faith.


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Tuesday, 23 September 2014

Secret to Mastering Presentations

Presentation Secret: Tell A Story

by: George Torok


Tell me a story. Do you remember saying that to your parents when you were a child? Perhaps children have pleaded with you to tell them a story. It’s not just children who want to hear stories.


The entertainment industry thrives on telling stories. TV, movies and even sports are about telling stories. Notice the big dollars that the celebrities and stars make. Why? Because we crave stories and we reward our story tellers handsomely. Note the success of Oprah, Steven King and James Cameron.


Story telling has been with us since cave men huddled around a flickering campfire. Imagine the challenge of presenting to a group of hungry, frightened and shivering cave dwellers. Story telling entertained, educated and excited people eons ago and it still enthralls us today.


What does that tell you?


When you tell stories in your presentations you will sell more, persuade more effectively and enjoy greater results from your presentations. You’ll also feel better about speaking because story telling is more comforting than giving a speech.


Most of us would rather tell stories than give a speech. Ask someone to choose between telling a story or giving a speech guess what they will pick. While public speaking gets high rating as a fear, story telling does not. If you are nervous about giving a speech work a few stories into your presentation.


Stories in a presentation help you get your message across better Yes, you can and should tell stories in business and sales presentations. One of my clients included stories in his presentation to close a $10 million deal.


I suggest that you follow this simple formula to make stories work for you.


Three elements to an effective story:


1. Conflict – The conflict grabs our attention. Create the setting. Make it vivid.


2. Resolution – We need closure even if the closure is based on hope.


3. Point – Only tell a story to help clarify a point.


It’s best to tell a personal story because:


1. You lived it so you don’t need to memorize it.


2. It’s your story so no one else is likely to tell it.


3. The audience feels privileged when you share a personal experience.


Rehearse and edit the words in your story to include only the details necessary to make your point. Your most difficult task is leaving out some of the details. Your audience doesn’t need all the details to get the point. The story is for the audience not for you.


The story doesn’t need to be funny. If it is that’s a nice bonus.


Like every story teller you are allowed some creative license. It’s best if the story is 100% true. But it is more important that the story be believable. Some true stories are not believable. Don’t waste your time with those unbelievable tales. Sometimes you might alter some small detail to make the story easier to tell or better illustrate your point.


If the story is so painful that you can’t tell it without crying – don’t use it – unless you are speaking at a funeral.


Tell stories to better illustrate your point.


Tell stories to be more memorable.


Tell stories to sell more.


The best public speakers are master story tellers. If you want more success when you present – tell stories.


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Another Inconvenient Truth

The Inconvenient Truth of Success

by: Ouida Vincent


I was having a conversation with a new member of my organization the other day. He is in management training and hates it. He got started in my business because he wants out and saw an opportunity for himself. I wanted him to work on his vision statement so that we could meet and map out a business plan to turn that vision into reality.


He asked, “Can I make a million dollars in 2 years with this business.” I, frankly, told him no, but he could replace his present income in 2 years or less, get out of the job he hates, and free up enough time to go on to make a million dollars.


Monday was his “day off” so he didn’t want to meet on his day off. The first stumbling block. He was treating a potentially wealth-generating business like a job with benefits complete with time off.


To quote Jim Rohn on jobs and business: “I work fulltime on my job and part time on my fortune!” He then goes on to say “profits are better than wages. With wages you can make a living, with profits you can make a fortune!”


It only stands to reason: If your daily work does not place you on the path to success, however you define it, then your time away from work must be devoted to the task of success if you are ever going to achieve it.


We all have goals and dreams, but if we peak under the covers of many of those goals and dreams, we have attached so many conditions to achieving them, that we make our goals and dreams little more than wishes.


I will be a millionaire (as long as it doesn’t interfere with nights out with the friends or the new episodes of Survivor and as long as I don’t have to change my financial habits). I’ll get that advanced degree (as long as I don’t have to change my schedule or take out student loans.) I’ll set up that savings account (when I have money left over). I’ll get in shape (as soon as I can find the time.)


All of these conditions underscore the truth of life…so few people achieve high levels of success because success is simply inconvenient. Earl Nightingale defined success as “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal” and therein lies the rub.


Progressive means to consistently move forward. What of life’s circumstances does not have the power to halt forward progress? The illness of a family member or pet, an unexpected life event, like job loss, death disability, fire or flood. A school play, the superbowl, doing the dishes, the plumber, the TV repair man, final exams…the list goes on.


Any circumstance that has the power to halt forward progress can also become the impetus for forward progress. A dear friend of mine continued to build her organization while her child was in the hospital with a cancer diagnosis. My friend moved to the town where her child lay in specialty care and continued to build her organization. Her child is in remission and my friend has created a six-figure residual income.


Harry Chapin embodied the fear I often hear expressed in his song… “Cats in the Cradle” The story of the man who loses the thing most precocious to him, time with his family, in the pursuit of his work. What I hear most often is…I won’t do this if this takes me away from my family…I spend so little time with them as it is. But that is often the point. We spend so little time with those we love no matter what we do. More often than not, we are living the “Cat’s in the Cradle” without ever doing a thing to change our circumstances.


Which brings us back to the Inconvenient Truth about Success. In order to achieve it, progress toward it must be continuous. In order to achieve it that progress must continue through those “precious moments” away from work.


The successful person has the following characteristics


1) A vision that is rooted in the future. Understanding that success is inconvenient, the successful person is always attached to a vision that pulls him or her forward.


2) A desire to find the shortest path forward. The successful person is more likely to partner with other like-minded people. People who may have needed skill sets to keep progress forward.


3) A sense of justice and fair play. The successful person always knows that success demands her price of admission and is eager to pay it.


4) A hunger for new skills. The successful person understands that new knowledge and new skills lay on the path forward.


5) A love of the game. The successful person understands that they are playing a game and as such he or she seeks to define the rules, learn the strategies and develop a team.


The desire for success is a seductive force in our society. More air and media time is devoted to information about success than perhaps any other subject, yet, the inconvenience of it is never discussed. Leaving people to look instead for the elusive new formula for success whenever they hit a stumbling block. There are signposts along the path for those who understand success’s Inconvenient Truth. The trick is to walk the path and keep your toes pointed forward.


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Saturday, 20 September 2014

Mindset Determines Success

Your Mindset Determines Your Success in Life

by: Sopan Greene, M.A.


To keep at the top of your game you have to keep a clear head. You can’t afford to fill up on news and negativity. The world’s overflowin’ with it and the only way to be a winner is to be in control of your thoughts.


Your thoughts become words, your words become actions and your actions become your destiny. Someone else came up with that, but I’ve always remembered it because it’s true. Our actions show who we truly are and how shallow or deep our character is.


Where you are today is a direct reflection of the words, thoughts and actions you took days, months and years ago. No matter how much some people blame their parents,teachers, where they grew up, television, the government or anything else, the truth is that nobody got them where they are today but themselves. The longer we choose to not take responsibility for our lives, the longer we’ll living uninspired lives that we don’t love.


I’ve heard 40 year old adults who complain about their lives and take no responsibility for what they’ve created. Give me a break. If you think you’re on the receiving end of life you’re mistaken and too lazy to do anything about it.


Simply think about the pictures you’ve seen on TV of people in third world countries. When I start to get mad about having to stand behind two people in a line at the grocery store I remind myself that a lot of people don’t even know where their food will come from tonight. This shifts me from anger to gratitude.


The next time you notice yourself getting frustrated or angry about something in your life I invite you to shift your focus onto what’s great in your life. It doesn’t matter if you think you don’t have enough money or you’re mad at your dog for chewing up a shoe. Remember how much love you get from having your dog in the first place and how your weekly earnings are more than some people make in a month or year.


Keep your focus on what is working – for you and for others. We are bombarded with negative input all day long. We need to watch what goes in because our livelihoods depend on what we creatively crank out. Our heads need to be full of positive inspiration or free space where we can dream.


A recent study revealed that the people who watch the most television news are the most fearful in our society. Crime has been going down in America for over a decade, but since the news focuses on it and repeats it over and over, a lot of people are receiving multiple messages that the world isn’t safe. These people end up being less confident and less successful as a result of being emotionally paralyzed to a degree by their fears.


Remember the old phrase “garbage in, garbage out”? If you Were asked to be on television based on the person you are today would be on Jerry Springer or Oprah?


Yeah, I know. You’re probably laughing or snickering right now. I can practically see that questioning look of disbelief on your face.


You may even think that you wouldn’t be on either one. Just imagine that there’s a guy at your door and he’s going to put you in a limo right now and you have to pick one show or the other to be a guest on or you’ll be locked in your house for a month. (It’s silly, but you get the point, I want you to get into it).


There’s a definite difference between Oprah guests and Jerry’s guests. Oprah’s guests radiate confidence and have taken responsibility for their lives and have created lemonade out of lemons. Jerry’s guests radiate low self esteem and think they’re victims of life. Even worse, they think they have a right to inflict their negative self-defeating attitude on others.


Oprah people know that they’re on the creative end of life. Jerry people choose to think they’re on the receiving end of life. And the truth is that if that’s what they believe then that’s what they get. It’s an easy cop out to settle in life and a lot of folks do it.


It’s important to keep a positive mental attitude no matter what your life is like because nothing is more important than your thoughts. They determine how you’ll experience the next minute, hour, day, week, year, decade and century. Rid your life of people and circumstances that don’t inspire and enliven you. Life’s simply too short to put up distracting drama and complainers who never change anything.


We all throw around phrases about how life is too short, but we don’t live that way. Take at least one action today to reaffirm that you’re creating a life you love.


Fire a friend who drains your energy. Read from an autobiography of a person who inspires you. Turn off the TV and write your goals and values. Take a walk in nature or with a friend who supports the best in you. Write a note to someone who has impacted your life in a positive way to let them know you’re grateful for having them in your life. Rub your dog’s belly and watch a doggy smile of ecstasy come out to greet you.


You’re building a powerful future. Study successful people and you’ll notice they all surround themselves with other inspired and successful people. Your life is your show, choose to be an Oprah person and avoid the Jerry people who show up in your life. Or better yet, treat the Jerry people you meet like they are the Oprah person buried inside them so we can all shine together.


Let your positive mental attitude infect everyone you meet and we’ll all enjoy better lives.


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Sopan Greene, M.A.


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