Be Flexible with Others

Why Being Flexible with Others Brings Success

by: Andy Sullivan

Other people live in the same world as you. Perhaps another way of looking at this is to say, there are people who share the same world as you. This may seem an obvious point to make, but many people believe the world revolves around them. The people who share the world with us have just as much right to follow their dreams as you or me. A lot of people fail to grasp that people in this world provide the opportunities for success. The adage, it’s not what you know but who you know, and it’s is true in every way. Whether you like it or not, other people will continue to exist in your world .Accepting that these people have the right to cohabit this Earth with you makes plain sense. You should also accept that other people may choose to live according to a set of values that are not your own .

You have probably noticed that humans come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and colours. No doubt, you have seen that not all people share the same religion culture or political opinion. Accepting diversity is one of the best ways to increase your tolerance of others. Acknowledging that other people have a right to their own ideas about how to live their lives even when you totally disagree with what they are saying can save you a lot of emotional distress. People are going to continue to exercise their beliefs no matter what you think.

Accepting others is the key to being free of anger stressors and unhealthy rage. Wanting others to treat you well and with respect is fair enough. Similarly, you probably want other people to do a good job for you. Social contracts are like gentlemens agreements where we presume a certain person will treat us in a particular way. You need to ask yourself, am I doing everything I can to fill my end of the bargain?

The Earth seen from Apollo 17. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Keeping your attitudes flexible and based on preferences, rather than demands or expectations, can keep you in harmony with yourself. The more rigid and demanding you are of others, the more likely it is that you will become angry and bitter for no good reason. Being flexible towards others means you have to be prepared to tolerate disrespect from others too. Having a flexible outlook means accepting that there are some people in this world who do not share the same values or respect culture as you. Of course, this is slightly different when it comes to reacting to people we know personally, we are talking here about people in everyday life. Remember that people behave according to how they want to behave not how you want them to behave.

The point I am making here is that putting people down makes respecting people in general difficult. You need to sustain a level of respect for others in order to be able to consider their behaviour correctly. The alternative is accepting them as people who make mistakes just like yourself. Accepting other people will make you a more tolerant and more pleasant person. There are rewards to reap from this mindset: your mind set will become more positive and energetic in the right way.

As we have been discussing, one of the best ways to determine your frame of mind is to think about how you are with other people. A great way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you outgoing and open to meeting and talking with others? Or are you insular and afraid. Believe it or not one of the best ways to overcome a negative frame of mind is to change your attitude to the world around you and that means the people in it as well

By believing that other people are complex, ever-changing and mistake ridden individuals, you will see the beauty of your new tolerant state of mind. Frustration will occur if you believe that the people around you are interfering with you goal. If you carry on in this way, you will experience the unhealthy sort of rage that makes your life plain miserable.

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Council On Foreign Relations: A Conversation with Feisal Abdul Rauf

The latest in the developments of a Mosque / Community Centre at the World Trade Center site. So… why am I showcasing this video, which comes directly from the Council on Foreign Relations?

The Council on Foreign Relations has been subject to much controversy over the years, but aside from that, they have released this video to help bridge the gap between the Muslim and the Christian worlds. The intent of the video is to assist with understanding, and expression of religious tolerance.

English: Participants make their way into the King Abdullah I Mosque in Amman, Jordan to attend the Voices of Religious Tolerance (VORT) conference April 21, 2011. Regimental Combat Team 1 and the Afghan government hosted VORT, which is a program that promotes religious tolerance and coexistence of different faith groups. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

My opinion is that religious tolerance is itself an oxymoron. Modern religions are not tolerant of others. They continually point fingers at the other religions, and cast their members / followers to hell or eternal damnation. And if it’s not eternal damnation that they face, it is at a minimum denial into the kingdom of God which follows this life experience. It is time that we stop dividing ourselves in such a manor, and simply realize that we have… for thousands of years… debated between the concept of “Little God vs. Big God.”

Little God is a God that is some things… and not others. A God that is only positive, but not negative. A God that created some, but not others. Where the idea of a Big God actually encompasses ALL THERE IS. Not some of what’s there… or a little of what is… but ALL THERE IS. All peoples, all worlds, all galaxies, all life experience are created within the paradigm and construct we know as GOD. When God is ALL THERE IS, it’s a very simple concept to understand… as even modern science suggests that matter is not solid at all, and as we look deeper and deeper within the constructs of matter, that itself is empty, and full of energy.

We too are mostly empty, and full of energy. We are made of the same material with which the Sun… Stars… and Solar system is created. The same elements that created the earth, are used to manifest the human body. The only difference between us humans is our beliefs, and through looking at what we believe, we will finally realize we are ALL ONE. These of course are just my opinions, but they are shared by many others… and perhaps when that understanding hits critical mass consciousness, our religions will change. We will change… to include a wider concept of God… and of Life… and that religions themselves are beliefs, which need to continually be examined in order for the evolution of ourselves to occur. Thanks for reading.

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Be Flexible with Others

Why Being Flexible with Others Brings Success

by: Andy Sullivan

Other people live in the same world as you. Perhaps another way of looking at this is to say, there are people who share the same world as you. This may seem an obvious point to make, but many people believe the world revolves around them. The people who share the world with us have just as much right to follow their dreams as you or me. A lot of people fail to grasp that people in this world provide the opportunities for success. The adage, it’s not what you know but who you know, and it’s is true in every way. Whether you like it or not, other people will continue to exist in your world .Accepting that these people have the right to cohabit this Earth with you makes plain sense. You should also accept that other people may choose to live according to a set of values that are not your own .

You have probably noticed that humans come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and colours. No doubt, you have seen that not all people share the same religion culture or political opinion. Accepting diversity is one of the best ways to increase your tolerance of others. Acknowledging that other people have a right to their own ideas about how to live their lives even when you totally disagree with what they are saying can save you a lot of emotional distress. People are going to continue to exercise their beliefs no matter what you think.

Accepting others is the key to being free of anger stressors and unhealthy rage. Wanting others to treat you well and with respect is fair enough. Similarly, you probably want other people to do a good job for you. Social contracts are like gentlemens agreements where we presume a certain person will treat us in a particular way. You need to ask yourself, am I doing everything I can to fill my end of the bargain?

The Earth seen from Apollo 17. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Keeping your attitudes flexible and based on preferences, rather than demands or expectations, can keep you in harmony with yourself. The more rigid and demanding you are of others, the more likely it is that you will become angry and bitter for no good reason. Being flexible towards others means you have to be prepared to tolerate disrespect from others too. Having a flexible outlook means accepting that there are some people in this world who do not share the same values or respect culture as you. Of course, this is slightly different when it comes to reacting to people we know personally, we are talking here about people in everyday life. Remember that people behave according to how they want to behave not how you want them to behave.

The point I am making here is that putting people down makes respecting people in general difficult. You need to sustain a level of respect for others in order to be able to consider their behaviour correctly. The alternative is accepting them as people who make mistakes just like yourself. Accepting other people will make you a more tolerant and more pleasant person. There are rewards to reap from this mindset: your mind set will become more positive and energetic in the right way.

As we have been discussing, one of the best ways to determine your frame of mind is to think about how you are with other people. A great way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you outgoing and open to meeting and talking with others? Or are you insular and afraid. Believe it or not one of the best ways to overcome a negative frame of mind is to change your attitude to the world around you and that means the people in it as well

By believing that other people are complex, ever-changing and mistake ridden individuals, you will see the beauty of your new tolerant state of mind. Frustration will occur if you believe that the people around you are interfering with you goal. If you carry on in this way, you will experience the unhealthy sort of rage that makes your life plain miserable.

Source

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• The One Ingredient Necessary For Accepting Yourself


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• Respect: The Essential Ingredient in the Design of Modern Learning Environments


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