Showing posts with label Interpersonal relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Interpersonal relationship. Show all posts

Saturday, 20 September 2014

Do You Trust Your Workplace Relationships?

Building Trust in the Workplace: A Valuable Topic for Leadership Training

by: Richard L. Williams, Ph.D


Trust is the foundation of all successful interpersonal relationships, both personal and business. Trust is the confidence or belief a person feels toward a particular person or group. Trust is, therefore, one of the primary binding forces in any interpersonal relationship. It permits people to overcome doubts and unknowns and enjoy peace of mind. The absence of trust causes confusion, worry, inaction, and fear. When interpersonal trust is present, a person feels a confidence that everything will somehow work out. In the workplace, trust is a prerequisite for effective interpersonal communications. Without trust, employees may feel uncertainty, worry, and a sense of insecurity. No relationship, personal or business, can exist for even a short period of time if some element of trust is not present. Trust is an essential leadership training ingredient that binds any human relationship into an effective, working partnership.


Even though trust is fundamental to human relationships, it is actually misunderstood by many people. People use trust, or the lack of it, to explain good and bad relationships with others. Consider the cliché phrases: “Don’t worry, you can trust me” and “Just trust me.” Trust has become both a buzzword and an excuse in our society. Trust is as much abused as it is used in today’s business world. It is used to define and explain; yet few leadership training programs have seriously considered what it is and what it is not.


Psychologists are just beginning to learn how trust really works. Research suggests that trusting relationships are predictable, caring, and faithful. When a manager’s behavior is consistent over a period of time and another person can reasonably predict that behavior, trust is possible. By contrast, it is difficult to trust a person whose actions are inconsistent or unpredictable.


Caring in a relationship involves actions that express consideration toward the other person. Through effective leadership training, a caring supervisor knows when final exams are scheduled at the local college and asks employees who will be taking the tests how much time off will be needed to study. A caring supervisor finds out about a birth, death, anniversary, graduation, or sickness and sends a card to the employee’s home.


Faith is the belief that an employee’s behavior will be in direct response to the trust placed in that relationship. Faith can be demonstrated by communicating clear expectations and then telling the employee, “I know you and I believe you can accomplish this assignment.” Managers who have difficulty demonstrating faith in others typically have difficulty trusting them as well. Trust as a leadership training component can help change this.


Building trust in the workplace is vital for a long-lasting, satisfying, rewarding, and successful relationship. Leadership training helps effective managers practice behaviors that promote and build trusting relationships. They learn to do this with consistent actions each day. In return they obtain the benefits of high-trust employee relations. These benefits include higher morale, increased initiative, improved honesty, and better productivity. All are important aspects of a profitable and rewarding business experience.


It’s not uncommon for people to use the word “trust” to describe a feeling they have regarding some interpersonal relationships. Trust does not magically appear in a relationship without certain elements preceding it over time. And once trust has been breeched it is difficult and sometimes impossible to establish once again.


Three steps pave the path before enduring trust begins. The first step is effective communications. When we communicate effectively with another person we have an opportunity to move that relationship to the second step, which is real understanding. That is when two people have communicated to the point of honest and deep understanding. This can lead to the third step in the relationship of mutual respect. A respecting relationship demands that each person contribute enough respect that it can be reciprocated back from the other person. Unilateral respect in relationships is temporary and superficial. Mutual respect that can lead to trust is much deeper and must come from communicated understanding. Once a relationship has experienced mutual respect it is possible for the participants to experience enduring relational trust. This is a feeling that binds people together over time and through trials.


The four steps are dependent upon the actions or integrity of the individuals involved. Integrity is not only keeping agreements, but it is also “walking the talk.” If, for example, a person communicates deceitfully, how much understanding will there be? And how much respect will the other person have? Ultimately trust will be lacking.


Enduring trust is a leadership training process that takes time and effort. It is clearly the essence of what fuels meaningful relationships.


Test your Trust.


Answer the following five statements on a scale of 1 to 5, where 1 is not true and 5 is completely true.


1. My actions each day demonstrate that I trust my employees.


2. My employees can trust me with sensitive or private information.


3. I would never betray a trust with an employee.


4. I keep confidences and would never share confidential information inappropriately.


5. I am able to trust my employees.


Tally your scores from the five items. A total score of 20 to 25 would indicate that you and your employees probably share an atmosphere of trust. A score of 15-19 would indicate that trust is present, but not in abundance. A score of 14 or less probably means that some additional leadership training efforts in building trust would be appropriate.


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Thursday, 11 September 2014

A Closer Look at Inspiration

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inspirationInspiration is something that is often talked about but not clearly defined. We describe inspiration as a feeling, yet what is the meaning? The dictionary defines inspiration as “the act or power of moving the intellect or emotions.” So how do you tap into this power? Before you can find your inspiration, you should start to look at what inspiration means to you personally. Different people are inspired for many different reasons. When you think of inspiration, you might think of positive events, like a firefighter running to save someone in a burning building, or a successful business person making it to the top. But inspiration is not limited to just the positive events in life. Often people are inspired by something not so positive, such as the death of a friend or family member, a divorce or the end of a long-term relationship. Inspiration to me personally is the power to move you to do something great with massive emotion behind the actions you take.


Consider This


more inspirationFeeling inspired is good, taking action on the inspiration is much greater. Inspiration to me is a feeling that I need to do something more; it causes me to take action beyond who I normally know myself to be. When I am inspired, I am more likely to respond in a deeply emotional way, instead of just going through the motions. When you understand what inspiration means to you, the ability to find what inspires you becomes easier. My environment is a huge source of inspiration to me, as well as the friends I keep and what I allow into my mind. Understanding what inspiration means to you will help you create your world to be an inspiring place.


Reflections


What does inspiration mean to you? What inspires you?


My Request


leap for inspirationInspiration isn’t limited to those major events in life when something extremely positive or negative happens. You don’t have to wait to go get it at a motivational event. Begin to really understand what inspiration means for you and you will start to find it in the form of everyday things, such as when you are inspired to help carry an elderly person’s groceries to their car, go the extra mile to help a friend or simply stop and enjoy the world around you. Inspiration may even find you when someone reaches out and helps you with something. Spend a few moments this week thinking about what inspiration really means to you and how it can play a major role in helping you create a life you really love.


Notable Quotes


“Most of life is routine – dull and grubby, but routine is the momentum that keeps a man going. If you wait for inspiration you’ll be standing on the corner after the parade is a mile down the street.” Ben Nicholas


“I could never tell where inspiration begins and impulse leaves off. I suppose the answer is in the outcome. If your hunch proves a good one, you were inspired; if it proves bad, you are guilty of yielding to thoughtless impulse.” Beryl Markham


“You can’t wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.” Jack London






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Tuesday, 2 September 2014

12 Ways to Persuade without Manipulating

by: Cucan Pemo


There is a fine line between persuading someone and trying to manipulate the way that they think. And when you’re in a loving relationship, you should be focusing on the positive aspects of persuasion and discussion, rather than ways to trick someone into agreeing with you.


Honesty is truly the best policy


It can’t be stressed enough that being honest about what you want is that best way to start influencing your relationship because it creates a no-games way of looking at problems and conflicts. Instead of your partner wondering what you mean, they will know exactly what you need.


Know what you want


And do you already know what you want? Many times, manipulation is easier for those that don’t really know what they want to achieve from a discussion. In order to avoid this, you will want to make sure that you have a clear idea of what you want share with your partner and what you want to achieve as a result.


Acknowledge what they want


But it’s not just about you either. You need to be sure that you know what your partner wants in the situation as well. Ask them to be clear about the way that they want your relationship to be, and then be sure to acknowledge that in your persuasion. A partnership includes two people.


Realize that you can’t change minds


You won’t always be able to change their mind, nor should that be a goal of yours. What you do want to do is persuade them to look at a situation or problem in the way that you are. They might have other ideas that they want to share with you; other perspectives that you might not understand. And from their own way of thinking, they might never change their way of looking at things.


Honesty anyone?


Once again, when you refuse to build a relationship on lies, you can move from conflict into resolution much more efficiently. When you find yourself in a lie, you will want to explain yourself immediately and then correct the wrong statement.


Information is best


When you want to correct a problem or smooth a situation in a relationship, you will want to get the facts straight so that you can present your case accurately. Instead of using facts that would help your persuasion, you will want to use the real facts. For example, instead of saying the other person never wants to do anything, show examples of how this happens.


Let them talk too


But again, this isn’t all about you. You need to hear what your partner thinks and feels as well to start moving toward some sort of compromise. Ask them what they think about what you have said and whether there’s anything else that they might want to add. Try to engage them in dialogue so it’s not a one-sided conversation.


Admit when you’re wrong


And you will be wrong in your thinking or ideas, so be sure to admit that. Partners like it when you admit to being fallible. We all make mistakes and we’re much more likely to listen to those that admit to doing so.


Honesty once more


When you have ulterior motivations for your discussions with a partner, you are creating a situation in which only one of you is benefiting from a promise or a solution. Instead of what kind of situation, why not be honest about what you’re really trying to achieve?


Choose common ground


If you choose a location for your discussion that you are comfortable in, but your partner is not, you will automatically put them on the defensive. Instead, choose a place that is neutral and gives no one the advantage. Or if you’re the one that wants to have the discussion, have your partner choose where you will talk.


Pick the right time


Being rushed or tired is not a good way to feel during an important discussion. You want to choose a time that works out best for the both of you. This might mean that you both have to clear your schedules or make time available – but it creates the best possible conditions.


Honesty always


Just in case you didn’t already realize it, being honest is the only way to avoid manipulation. Even the tiniest infraction will lead to further distrust of each other.


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