Showing posts with label Laughter. Show all posts
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Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Believe In Thyself

Strategies To Help You Believe In Yourself

by: Marlene Challis




Your mind is the most powerful supercomputer in the world. It’s a pity if you would not be able to explore and utilize its vast potentials.


Many people are using just a very tiny portion of their mind’s abilities. Be different and learn how to use your mind’s capacity to the fullest!


In the mind, positive and negative thoughts are always in conflict. What wins among them is shown through our actions and behavior towards things.


To help you believe in yourself, self help motivation source has some simple things that you can do.


Life is full of surprises and exciting moments that by simply looking at them, we miss ourselves. We are so busy doing unremarkable things out there – in the mirror, on the phone, on the PC, in front of the TV and radio, overtaking, adventuring, and endlessly seeking power and status. This is when car racers feel alive and excited – when they are in a near death opportunity! Imagine that.


Actually, that is when we also feel enthusiastic – with adrenalin-pumping, hair-raising, goosebumps-appearing incidents or when one is over excited, can show off, and risks fearful flights – that we cannot see what’s real in our lives. We make mistakes. We miss turnings. We lose or forget things. And this is all because we lose reign of our senses. Only when there are accidents, car crash, a thump on the head, a slap in the face, a comment, a synchronized moment, a glance from a beautiful person, song of a sweet bird, the rising or setting of the sun, a shooting star, or the rhythm of the waves do we stop for a second and appreciate and reflect these things with our minds.


Time seems to slow down in moments of awe, devotion, speechlessness, and high spirits. We become aware of beautiful, fresh, sweet, shining, and glowing moments that only at these times are we awake, truly alive, and with a calm and serene mind.


They say that we will never really know what we have until it’s gone. So, shall we wait for some things to disappear before we appreciate them? Not exactly. In fact, the mind can and should be trained to focus on the brighter things in life, no matter how little or uninteresting they are, so that negative thoughts shall not succeed in creating an undesirable future for us. Nothing is too late for change.


Here are some ways of training the mind on positive thinking:


Start the day with cheers and smiles.


Your whole day depends on how you greet the morning. Therefore, as long as you welcome it with energy and high spirits, everything will go okay. You don’t want the rest of the day to get ruined, do you? Come on, smile! It doesn’t cost anything but is worth everything.


• Ask for guidance.


Only God knows what we will be having on the day ahead of us. He will surely appreciate a few minutes of praying and asking for guidance from Him. Also, have faith on Him that He is more than willing to grant our requests as long as it is for our own good. With God as our guide, we don’t have any reason not to say and believe in the thought that I can do this. I can make it through this day. Nothing is impossible. After all, God is with me.


Plan the day ahead.


To avoid mistakes that will cause negative output on your daily activities that will later on become negative thoughts, it is better to plan your work first; after which, work your plan. Make sure today’s goals are clearly defined and absorbed by your mind. This can be done even before you get out of bed each day, just so immediate addressing issues as they arise can be avoided.


• Keep your mind focused on important things.


Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize practicing your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Concentrate on things that need to be taken seriously, but at the same time, take time to relax and enjoy. This way, favorable results may take place.


• Be detached from the outcome.


They say that life is like a Ferris Wheel; sometimes, you’re on the top, and sometimes at the bottom. This means that there will be times in our lives where some things would not turn out according to what we want them to be. Don’t be annoyed if you don’t get what you desire. However, do your best in everything you do. Only, don’t get too attached on the probable results that may only cause disappointments and upsets.


• Try new things and challenges.


See learning and changes as opportunities. There’s nothing wrong in changing attitudes and routines as long as they are for the good and improvement of who you are and what you do. Doing new things may include considering more options for a project, meeting new people from different places, asking lots of questions. Through this, the flow of thinking is directed to improvement and negative thoughts will be easily eradicated.


Balance your desires.


We live in a place of opposites and duality – gain and loss, pleasure and pain, light and dark, male and female, love and hate. This is how the cycle of life goes. We can never have all the good things in life at the same time. In love, there will always be someone who gets hurt. In wealth, there will always be people who will not be fortunate enough. Measure and moderation is the primary key.


• Be realistic.


Make sure that what you want is something possible. Hoping for something to happen which would never really materialize in real life will only bring you disappointment. For instance, you wish to lose weight. Therefore, you have to set a goal and act on appropriate measures within a period of time to achieve what you wish. Hey, No one can get slimmer overnight. Keep track of your mental and physical health. This way, you will know how far you can keep believing.


• Know yourself.


There is no other person in the world who can tell who you really are. Know your passions, favorites, and principles. Spend some quality time by yourself – reading, listening to music, day dreaming, and the likes. If you know yourself completely, you will be aware of how far can you go physically, mentally, and emotionally.


• Love yourself.


Before you expect for other people to love and adore you, it is always you who needs to love yourself first. Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself as much as you praise others once in a while. When you start feeling confident about yourself, positive thoughts will naturally flow to your mind.


• Laugh. Enjoy. Have fun.


Looking at the brighter side of life starts with entertainment and pleasure. Laughter is the best medicine, so they say. Whether your illness is physical or emotional, a few laughs and giggles can help you throw away heavy baggage such as anxiety, disappointment, or nervousness.


• Keep a list of your goals and actions.


Familiarize yourself with things you want to accomplish and with the ways you must undertake to complete them. By the time you are certain of what you want to do and carry out in your life, a stronger mind and will power will exist within you.


• Associate with positive people.


In every classroom, work place, or simply anywhere you go where there are groups of people, look for optimistic ones. There are lots of them, I’m sure. Associate with them, hang-out, discuss matters. They can help you build self-confidence and self-esteem.


• Make it a habit to ask questions.


This is not equal to dumbness and ignorance; rather, it is associated with seeking more information and understanding matters clearly. With more knowledge, there is also more power.


• Be open.


We have to accept the fact that we don’t know everything. And that we are continuously learning in every place we go, with every people we meet as everyday passes. We should not close our minds to new ideas and information that comes our way. Our mind is so spacious that it is impossible to fill it up completely. Thus, we should accept worthy things that may help us become better and brighter persons.


• Have trust in other people.


Although it may seem difficult and risky to give trust to just any people, when you believe in them or confident on what they are doing for you, doubts and negative judgments on them will be unnecessary. Also, it will bring harmonious relationships between you and your colleagues.


• Forgive and forget.


Mistakes and failures are the root causes of negative thinking. If we somehow learn to let go of all the pain, agony, and fear we try to keep inside our hearts and minds, then there will be nothing more to block our clear thoughts from being expressed. Forgive yourself for committing mistakes and forget these mistakes.


• Learn from experiences.


Learning inside the classroom is different from learning outside it. In school, one learns the lesson first before taking an exam; while in real life, one takes the test first before learning the lesson. This test in the real life is our experiences. If we failed in that test, i.e. the experience is not so good, we study the situation and learn the lesson. From here, we can avoid committing the same mistake twice.


• Count your blessings.


Focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have. Absence of our desires will only bring discontentment and disappointment that will only waste our time. Instead, be thankful and appreciative with all the blessings we receive.


• Kiss your worries goodbye.


At the end of everyday, before going to sleep, there is no need to keep bad experiences and unhappy moments that had happened in the day within you. Let them go, throw them out of the window and kiss them goodbye. Dream sweetly. As a new day unfolds, new hope arises. Keep believing. Always have faith.


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Thursday, 11 September 2014

Enjoy Every Moment of Your Life

By Hifzur Rehman 5/24/11


What is the best way to live life?


Enjoy, enjoy and enjoy. You are here in this world for a short period of time. Therefore, you must enjoy each and every single moment of your life. If you don’t want to enjoy your life then you are no more a living person.


Don’t deprive yourself of your God given right to enjoy life. Dance with the rhythm of your life. Life is worth living!


Get up early in the morning. Go for a swift walk. Enjoy listening to the chattering of birds. Enjoy looking at the beautiful colorful flowers. Do some workout/stretching in the nearby park. Fill your lungs with pollution free fresh air. Isn’t it all exciting and enjoyable.


Enjoy your breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day so your breakfast must include a variety of nourishing food such as fruit, juice, milk, bread, cereals, egg, jam, jelly, honey, dried nuts, tea, coffee etc.


Enjoy your work. Start your work by saying hello to everyone in the office. Pass some positive remarks about your colleagues. Enjoy talking to your clients, colleagues, friends and family members. Make every effort to complete your work in time.


Enjoy every single bite of your lunch. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat in a tension-free and stress-free atmosphere. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat the kind of food that is light on stomach but quite nourishing so that you get the much needed physical as well as emotional energy, during the day.


After satisfactorily finishing your work, it’s now time to leave office and enjoy. Enjoy your leisure time in the manner you wish to enjoy by involving yourself in activities like reading, writing, studying, swimming, boating, dancing, visiting friends, learning new skills, playing outdoors, playing indoors, watching TV , watching movies, listening to your favorite music, enjoying food in your favorite restaurant, going on long drive, etc.


If you need extra money then you can engage yourself in some part-time business or job in your spare time. Working for extra hours will bring some more money to your pocket and more joy to your life.


Don’t engage yourself in activities that can bring problems to your life. Don’t invite trouble. Live a disease-free, smoke-free, stress-free and drugs-free life. Don’t involve yourself in any criminal activities and don’t do anything that is illegal or immoral.


Difficult times in life come and go but keep your spirits high even in the worst type of crisis. Face challenges of life with courage and a positive state of mind. Take lessons from your past mistakes but don’t feel guilty. Laugh at silly things and enjoy life. Laughter is the best medicine.


It is my own experience that you get the best kind of enjoyment when you help those who are helpless and look towards you for help. I personally feel great excited when I am able to help such people. There is nothing more enjoyable than enabling other people enjoy their lives. Enjoy your own life and let others enjoy theirs.


You will not live for ever, so till you are alive, enjoy every moment of your life from the core of your heart.


About the Author:


Hifzur Rehman is an expert on success and personal development. He is also a motivational author and the editor of his website http://ift.tt/1j1KSdX . This website is dedicated to provide FREE practical guidance to those who want to achieve extraordinary success in life. Living a happy, healthy and successful life is not a luxury but a human necessity.


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Sunday, 31 August 2014

Be A Man

by: Steve Bunyan – Life Coach


If you’ve ever had trouble with “getting the girl” you will have doubtless asked around for advice from friends, siblings and maybe work colleagues too, on how to win her affections. The advice you got will probably have varied wildly and as a result you may still be confused.


I’m sure you’ve already heard some of these… “Buy her flowers”, “Treat her mean, keep her keen”, “Just tell her that you like her”, “ask her out”, “be yourself”, “use this great pick-up line…”, “make her laugh”, “compliment her” and so on…


You may have also come across a few that recommend you use the techniques they found in one of hundreds of different eBooks available on the internet, or perhaps something they stumbled on at Amazon.


You may have even tried some of these things and probably found that the results are disappointing at best.


Men often get it completely wrong because they totally misunderstand what women are attracted to. They do this because they assume that women think like men do – duh! They’re women; they think like women – not like men. Their motivations, dreams, goals, aspirations, expectations, wants, needs and desires are totally different to yours and that’s how it should be!


You’re a guy so you are primarily attracted to a woman based on her looks and body shape; maybe so much so that pretty much everything else is almost irrelevant to you. (Perhaps you can convince her that you’re not, perhaps you can even convince your friends and family of that too, but I’m just not buying it because we are both guys and that’s just how we’re wired – it’s normal and natural so accept it). By contrast, and generally speaking, unless she is still very young (perhaps under 21), she has already grown out of that phase. It’s not that she isn’t interested in the way you look, of course she is; it’s just that it’s kind of secondary to the other things in she wants in a man.


So what’s the deal? What do women really want?


Actually, it’s pretty simple… women want you to be a man.


Ok, so how do you do that?


Here are my top 19 ways to be man.


#1 Believe in yourself


If you don’t believe in yourself, she won’t either. It’s that simple. Don’t fake it, just do whatever it takes to believe in you as a genuine and attractive guy.


#2 Be friendly


When you’re out and about meeting people, be friendly, upbeat and cheerful. Have a smile on your face and walk tall. Be genuinely pleased to meet people, regardless of who they are. Make time to say hello to everyone you meet and really make an effort to look for the good in them. Being friendly does not include buying people things just to gain their attention, running errands for them “to be nice”, or being their personal servant. These things are not friendly, they are just plain needy.


#3 Be congruent


Whoever you are, whatever you do, however you dress, behave, or present yourself; be real. Genuinely be the person you are claiming to be and presenting to the world. Only say things if you really mean them. Use only your own words and terminology and wear clothes that express who you really are – the real you. Don’t be tempted to copy others, be yourself. Every one of us is a unique and fascinating human being when we take the time to be who we really are. And anyone who tells you this isn’t true, is just plain wrong!


#4 Be confident


A very good looking young man.

A very good looking young man. (Photo credit: ironypoisoning)



>From a woman’s perspective, confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a man can ever possess. (If you doubt this just go and ask a few women you know). A confident man is very sexy to women. So decide who you are, be yourself, be confident about that and make it your goal to do whatever it takes to have rock-solid confidence.


#5 Be strong


You may have heard people say “be strong” before, but again, as a guy your interpretation of what strong is may be very different to that of a woman. Women want guys who are mentally and emotionally strong. Yes of course, they like men with physical strength too, but it’s not a substitute for mental and emotional strength in the eyes of a woman. She wants a guy who can make her feel safe, wanted, needed, loved and protected. So, develop the ability to rise above dramas and crises. Learn to take whatever life throws at you in your stride and take the burden for her too. Be cool and calm when everyone else is completely losing it – especially her!


#6 Be spontaneous


Routine is not sexy. Doing the same thing all the time is boring. Knowing what someone is going to say or do, before they say or do it, is as dull as dishwater. Always going to the same restaurant, always wearing your favourite shirt, always going through the same routine in the bedroom and even buying her the same flowers on the same day every week will have her yawning rapidly – and probably paying attention to other guys too.


Just like you, women want excitement in their lives and you will never bore her into being attracted to you! So, be a little unpredictable; mix things up, do something she could never have imagined in a million years and do that at times which are also unpredictable too. It doesn’t need to be expensive, extravagant, or flamboyant, but it does need to show that you thought and care about the way she feels.


#7 Be fun


It always makes me smile when single people on dating sites list themselves as looking for a “serious relationship”. Why the hell don’t they want a fun one!? Women love to laugh. In fact, so much so, that men who can make a woman laugh are usually a huge turn-on to any woman.


I’m not talking about cracking an endless stream of jokes here; I’m talking about being able to make her laugh you, at life and even at herself. Spontaneous, off-the-cuff, contextual humour is an incredible aphrodisiac for women. Tease her, make fun of her (in a nice way), and laugh at your own idiosyncrasies too. She wants to have fun and she wants you to be the guy who makes that happen. Perhaps play “make believe” with her, like kids do… Make up scenarios that are amusing, for example:


She’s the princess, sitting in her room waiting to be rescued by the handsome prince, and you would have rescued her, you really would, but you were busy washing your hair!


And remember, don’t use my words, make up your own, use your own imagination and be yourself. Use situations that are relevant to you and her and have fun with it. When the words that came from your mind make her laugh, magic can and often does happen.


A word of warning here… using humour is a skill; perhaps even an art. It’s incredibly powerful when used well, but when used wrongly it can make her go off you instantly. The golden rule is that she should be the one doing the laughing.


#8 Be busy


So you’ve met a woman you really like and you’re pretty sure she’s into you too. Don’t make the naive error of wanting to see her, or talk to her all the time. Have other things going on in your life that make you a fascinating and multi-faceted guy. Women will soon lose interest in you if you are always available. That’s just human nature and always remember that women have choices so don’t overdo it. Don’t fake it either though; don’t pretend to be too busy to see her when she calls – actually be busy so that you can’t see her all the time – at least for the first half dozen dates or so.


Then once you are seeing her regularly, don’t put off other things in your life that are important, just so you can see her; especially your friends or family. Make time for her sure, but not at the expense of everything else in your life. To do so is both social suicide and the start of a slippery slope into co-dependence. You will almost certainly lose some good friends and probably, in time, her too.


#9 Be laid back


This is really important. When you’re talking to a woman you like, don’t be too eager. Treat her the same as you treat everyone else; be indifferent. Don’t lean in too much, don’t give her too much eye contact or physically align yourself to completely face her. Show her attention, but not too much. Allow yourself to be a little distracted by what’s going on around you and let her mind play with the idea that maybe, just maybe, you do like her. A guy who is a sure thing is a big turn-off to a woman.


#10 Be in control of yourself


If you’re going to be a man you have to be in control of yourself. You have to know what you want and don’t want. You have to know what you like and don’t like and you have to be willing to stick your neck out and say so. It doesn’t matter whether anyone agrees with you, but it does matter that you know who you are and that you remain true to yourself. Being in control of yourself is also about remaining calm, not losing your temper, not having too much to drink, and not letting others make decisions for you – especially her.


#11 Be cheeky


She may be the prettiest thing you ever saw, but that doesn’t mean you have to put her on a pedestal and worship her like some mindless slave. As a rule, the more you like her, the cheekier you should be. Steal her fries, tease her for being a girl, pinch her butt, or better still, accuse her of pinching yours. If you’ve been dancing with her offer to get her a chair because you realise that at her age she shouldn’t overdo it (especially if she’s younger than you). If you catch her looking at you, accuse her of checking you out, or when she calls and wants to see you, tell her you would, but you have already arranged a date with her mum!


#12 Take the lead


When you call her to arrange a date, know where you’re going to take her, what time she should be ready and if it’s relevant, what she should wear too (she won’t thank you if she turns up to a ball in her jeans or the ice rink in a ball gown). Don’t expect or even ask her to choose – if you want to be a man that’s your job. If she wants to do something else she’ll tell you.


Open doors for her, pull her chair out and even pick up the bill if you want to, but don’t stop her from contributing if she wants to.


Ignore everything you’ve heard about not opening doors for women etc. Its feminist propaganda designed to confuse, emasculate and control men; and it’s peddled by women you’re never going to be attracted to for very long, if at all. They are angry at you and me for what they perceive other guys did in the past, so if you meet one, I suggest you make a swift exit because you are not to blame for what other guys did or didn’t do in the past and anyway, you can do a lot better.


#13 Make it about the people, not about the money


Far too many people meet on a first date and make it all about money. Chic restaurants, expensive cocktails, taxis, tickets and so on. You really don’t need to spend a fortune to have a great time together. The best date I ever had was a cup of coffee from the drive thru at McDonalds followed by the two of us dancing together under the stars to my car stereo in the gateway of a farm on a quiet country lane. So come on guys, be inventive, be romantic and be spontaneous without having to rely on money to make the man. Do this whilst being yourself and you’ll blow her away! Just think country walks, picnics, the beach or any other natural setting.


#14 Be firm


Women want a man who is in control of himself and his own life. That means you don’t let people push you around physically, mentally or emotionally. No woman will find herself truly able to respect a man who lets others treat him like a doormat. If you can’t do something for someone else, be a man and say so up front. The same goes for those times when you could but you just don’t want to. Don’t be wishy-washy, be decisive. She wants a man who doesn’t put up with crap from others – including her!


#15 Be assertive


When you feel the time is right to kiss her, whatever you do, don’t ask her for a kiss, or ask for her permission to kiss her, or even tell her you want to kiss her – Just be a man and steal a kiss! If she doesn’t want you to kiss her or just isn’t ready yet she’ll make it clear. As a guy this is just something you have to make a judgement call on and then choose your moment. A great time to steal your first kiss is when you’ve just made her laugh.


#16 Be gentle


When you touch a woman, especially at the beginning of any intimate encounter with her, be gentle; stroke her skin really, really softly (imagine you are stroking the wings of a beautiful, yet delicate butterfly), and kiss her in a way that your lips are barely touching hers to start with. Notice her reactions and build this very slowly. As the passion builds, the touching and kissing can too, but take your time, she’s a warm, sensual woman, not a cold beer or a rib-eye steak and there really is no rush!


#17 Be interested


When you talk to a woman, be genuinely interested in what she has to say. Don’t pretend to be interested, actually get interested. You don’t have to agree with her or tell her she’s right, but the fact that you actually pay attention to what she has to say is something she will notice about you very quickly and in most cases this will do her opinion of you a power of good.


#18 Be detached


Far too many guys focus on the outcome they want to achieve when talking to a woman they are attracted to; and the woman knows it. If you want her phone number, a date, a dance or anything else from her, she will sense it very quickly and when she does it gives her almost all the power in your interactions with her. As soon as she has all the power, you are suddenly competing with every other guy who wants her attention so don’t do it.


Instead, focus on simply enjoying her company, making her smile/laugh or just being plain friendly. Forget what you want to achieve until such a point that it becomes very obvious that she wants that too. Just get on with getting on with her and detach from the outcome. Even guys who are incredible with women can’t get a result every time, so let it go.


#19 Look like a man


Women want a guy who takes care of himself and cares about the way he looks because it says an awful lot about the way he sees himself and the world around him. However, no woman wants a guy who looks better than she does, or heaven forbid, takes longer getting ready than she does – she doesn’t spend all that time, money and effort to look her best, only to be upstaged by her man!


In conclusion guys, it’s not hard to be a man, it just takes a little thought, a little courage and a clear vision in your mind of who you are. So if in the past, you’ve struggled to understand what it is that women really want, just do the things I’ve mentioned above and the results will amaze you.




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