Avoiding Deception

The Top Habits Of Effective Liars – Revealed!

by: Amy Twain

From the person you’re talking to, to your longtime trusted pal, how can you be so sure that they’re not lying? How many times have you fallen prey to people’s deception?

A caveat: Take note that this list is to detect liars and not for you to practice! Really, can you spot liars?

Never be deceived again! Okay, be alert on your lie detectors if you notice these:

1) Effective liars are consistent. They know that different people sometimes compare notes, so they keep their facts (or lies) straight–down to the very minute details. You wonder why they’re so damn effective about it and not get caught; it seems effortless not just because they practice it, but they say the same stuff to different people–consistency, is their greatest asset.

2) Effective liars know their targets. They know how to get inside their listener’s mind–maybe it’s another reason why it makes them so relatable. They try to get to know your interests, likes, dislikes, so that they can relate to you and it’s easier for you to believe them since you’ve let your guard down on them. They know what things to avoid discussing, and especially your weak spots. Careful! He/she may be another emotional vampire.

3) They don’t lie that much. They are “selective” liars, as they choose their targets. Remember that the more you talk, (in this case, the more you lie) the greater your chances of getting caught (refer to number 1).

4) Effective liars save their weapons. Nope, they’re not really that everyday liars which you can easily catch. These seasoned predators save their best weapons for something they can gain. They don’t really bother telling lies unless they can get something out of it.

5) They know how to distract. They’re also savvy manipulators and know how to divert attention. Making use of emotional or sexual arousal to sidetrack the issue. Men may turn on their charm, machismo, women may display some cleavage–all to distract some attention.

Hope this list may guide you to avoid future deception.

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Scientists claim aliens could be sending us “tweets”

In a way akin to Twitter aliens could have been sending us short messages for years according to scientists.

They could have been using cosmic ‘tweets’ to contact us for decades, researchers claim – but we have been missing them.

While any ‘lost in space’ messages wouldn’t exactly be restricted to 140 characters, as on the website, a study suggests ET is more likely to send out short, directed messages than continuous signals beamed in all directions.

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Changing Attitudes and Behaviours

Attitudes and Behaviours

By Kellie Auld

There was an interesting conversation that took place not long ago on HR Linked In, in which the following question was posted:

“Can changing a behavior really change an attitude? It’s often said that changing a workplace behavior can be “easily” done through strong and immediately enforced incentives/disincentives. But does changing a behavior also result in a changed attitude? What do you do with an employee who’s behavior has changed for the better but they still have a very “bad attitude” towards such things as racism, sexism, ageism, etc? Will this person change over time or will his/her continued attitude negatively infect others around them?” (Dr. Eli Sopow)

The feedback on the discussion seems to be wavering between whether behaviours change attitudes, or attitudes change behaviours. I think that attitudes are formed by one’s beliefs and these ultimately affect behaviours.

As an example, if you believe that your supervisor has no clue what you do on a day-to- day basis, you probably don’t have the best attitude toward him or her. Your poor attitude probably affects your behaviours and the way in which you do your work. You may speak poorly of your supervisor to peers; you may neglect certain tasks you have been asked to perform as you don’t personally see value in doing them.

However, I think that if your supervisor were able to provide some background into what his/her experience is as it relates to your position (as an example) you may change your beliefs. This knowledge may very well change your attitude toward your supervisor. Maybe you will see that in fact, your supervisor has more of an awareness that you thought; and there is a ‘method to his madness’ so to speak.

Now, the bigger question is changing “attitudes” one has around racism, sexism, ageism, etc. Again, this is a belief system of some sort. You will never change everyone’s mindset; nor should that be your goal. At best, you may only be able to change the behaviour based on incentives/disincentives…and the attitude will remain.

I think that it is incumbent upon the leadership in an organization to clearly identify acceptable and non-acceptable behaviours. With the right environment and proper education around some of the mis-guided beliefs that are out there; you may be able to adjust some attitudes.

Leaders must not tolerate attitudes that allow poor behaviours to become the norm. As Steven Covey states in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, seek first to understand, then be understood. So, we must help everyone seek to understand. We need to find a way to change some of the attitudes that are preventing us from having successful workplaces.

When we make ourselves more ‘human’ and approachable to employees, they too will become more open and trusting. This, I believe will change attitudes and behaviours. I say let’s work on the attitudes and I’m confident we’ll see a change in behaviours.

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