Showing posts with label Dalai Lama. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dalai Lama. Show all posts

Wednesday, 10 September 2014

Thank You For Your Kindness

Kindness is Powerful


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Mark Twain

Cover of Mark Twain



Mark Twain said it best when he said, “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” What could be more powerful than something that reaches and touches every single one of us? A true act of kindness is something that is done for no other reason than to be kind to someone whether you believe they deserve it or not.


Some of the most powerful people in the world have been known to believe deeply in the power of kindness. The Dalai Lama is amongst the most significant figures and he said, “My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” With this religion he has inspired millions of people to follow in his footsteps and do good in the world.


Princess Diana who was well known as ‘The People’s Princess’ for her compassion and her ability to relate to the public said many things of kindness including: “Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.”


This is the true power of kindness, its contagiousness. If a philosophy of kindness can inspire an entire religion then just imagine the effect it could have on your personal life or your business. People want to be treated with kindness and will return to the places where they are. Think of the places you love to be more than anywhere and they are undoubtedly the places that you are treated with the most kindness like your grandma’s house or your loved one’s arms.


Kindness Kindness is a form of positive energy and it is said that when you put positive energy out there you’ll receive it back tenfold. It is the law of attraction and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t exercise this philosophy for the benefit of your business.


Once you start thinking kind thoughts and forcing unkind ones out of your head you’ll find that you start attracting the type of people who are energizing to be around. These are the type of people you want as customers because they will continue to feed your business with positive energy and spread the word to people they know.


There is absolutely no downside to kindness. The more you give it, the more you get back and the happier and less stressed out you become – that’s power.






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Friday, 29 August 2014

The Compassionate Ear

Who is a Compassionate Listener?

by: Dr. Linda Miles


It is difficult to become a good listener who both validates the pain of the other, while maintaining the ability to look at themselves. Each person must listen compassionately to themselves and each other.


Within many relationships, rather than engaging in compassionate listening, many couples polarize. One partner is the voice of reason, the head, while the other partner is the voice of emotion, the heart. These patterns often create communication problems, which hardly begins to touch on the angst that can be felt between couples.


While, listening with both our hearts and our heads is valuable, neither is complete by itself, because listening with both makes one complete person. Someone who uses just their head while listening is using their intellect and knowledge, and when used individually, without the hearts part, it can be cold and indifferent. When listening with just the heart compassion turns into confused feelings.


A compassionate listener is someone who listens with both their head and their heart.


Here are traits of a compassionate listener:


They are commited to listening.


They have the intention of understanding, as deeply as possible, the message and concerns of others.


They seek to understand the reality of another through both compassion and understanding.


They refrain from verbal and nonverbal judgments.


They are physically and mentally ready to listen.


They validate their understanding of the other’s reality before expressing their opinion.


They create a balance between their head and their heart.


They remain present and are in the here and now.


They are open to new learning experiences about their own behaviors.


They self-evaluate and can laugh at themselves.


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Thursday, 28 August 2014

13 Spiritual Principles

Original Title – Principles of Spiritual Activism


The following principles emerged from several years’ work with social change leaders in Satyana’s Leading with Spirit program. We offer these not as definitive truths, but rather as key learnings and guidelines that, taken together, comprise a useful framework for “spiritual activism.”


1. Transformation of motivation from anger/fear/despair to compassion/love/purpose. This is a vital challenge for today’s social change movement. This is not to deny the noble emotion of appropriate anger or outrage in the face of social injustice. Rather, this entails a crucial shift from fighting against evil to working for love, and the long-term results are very different, even if the outer activities appear virtually identical. Action follows Being, as the Sufi saying goes. Thus “a positive future cannot emerge from the mind of anger and despair” (Dalai Lama).


2. Non-attachment to outcome. This is difficult to put into practice, yet to the extent that we are attached to the results of our work, we rise and fall with our successes and failures—a sure path to burnout. Hold a clear intention, and let go of the outcome—recognizing that a larger wisdom is always operating. As Gandhi said, “the victory is in the doing,” not the results. Also, remain flexible in the face of changing circumstances: “Planning is invaluable, but plans are useless.”(Churchill)


3. Integrity is your protection. If your work has integrity, this will tend to protect you from negative energy and circumstances. You can often sidestep negative energy from others by becoming “transparent” to it, allowing it to pass through you with no adverse effect upon you. This is a consciousness practice that might be called “psychic aikido.”


4. Integrity in means and ends. Integrity in means cultivates integrity in the fruit of one’s work. A noble goal cannot be achieved utilizing ignoble means.


5. Don’t demonize your adversaries. It makes them more defensive and less receptive to your views. People respond to arrogance with their own arrogance, creating rigid polarization. Be a perpetual learner, and constantly challenge your own views.


6. You are unique. Find and fulfill your true calling. “It is better to tread your own path, however humbly, than that of another, however successfully.” (Bhagavad Gita)


7. Love thy enemy. Or at least, have compassion for them. This is a vital challenge for our times. This does not mean indulging falsehood or corruption. It means moving from “us/them” thinking to “we” consciousness, from separation to cooperation, recognizing that we human beings are ultimately far more alike than we are different. This is challenging in situations with people whose views are radically opposed to yours. Be hard on the issues, soft on the people.


8. Your work is for the world, not for you. In doing service work, you are working for others. The full harvest of your work may not take place in your lifetime, yet your efforts now are making possible a better life for future generations. Let your fulfillment come in gratitude for being called to do this work, and from doing it with as much compassion, authenticity, fortitude, and forgiveness as you can muster.


9. Selfless service is a myth. In serving others, we serve our true selves. “It is in giving that we receive.” We are sustained by those we serve, just as we are blessed when we forgive others. As Gandhi says, the practice of satyagraha (“clinging to truth”) confers a “matchless and universal power” upon those who practice it. Service work is enlightened self-interest, because it cultivates an expanded sense of self that includes all others.


10. Do not insulate yourself from the pain of the world. Shielding yourself from heartbreak prevents transformation. Let your heart break open, and learn to move in the world with a broken heart. As Gibran says, “Your pain is the medicine by which the physician within heals thyself.” When we open ourselves to the pain of the world, we become the medicine that heals the world. This is what Gandhi understood so deeply in his principles of ahimsa and satyagraha. A broken heart becomes an open heart, and genuine transformation begins.


11. What you attend to, you become. Your essence is pliable, and ultimately you become that which you most deeply focus your attention upon. You reap what you sow, so choose your actions carefully. If you constantly engage in battles, you become embattled yourself. If you constantly give love, you become love itself.


12. Rely on faith, and let go of having to figure it all out. There are larger ‘divine’ forces at work that we can trust completely without knowing their precise workings or agendas. Faith means trusting the unknown, and offering yourself as a vehicle for the intrinsic benevolence of the cosmos. “The first step to wisdom is silence. The second is listening.” If you genuinely ask inwardly and listen for guidance, and then follow it carefully—you are working in accord with these larger forces, and you become the instrument for their music.


13. Love creates the form. Not the other way around. The heart crosses the abyss that the mind creates, and operates at depths unknown to the mind. Don’t get trapped by “pessimism concerning human nature that is not balanced by an optimism concerning divine nature, or you will overlook the cure of grace.” (Martin Luther King) Let your heart’s love infuse your work and you cannot fail, though your dreams may manifest in ways different from what you imagine.


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