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Wednesday, 15 October 2014

Master Your Beliefs, Master Your Emotions




by: Steve Davis








Joe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. Your face flushes and your knuckles whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. Some part of you knows that this feeling is not proportionate to Joe’s comment or intention, but something was triggered in you nonetheless, and you’re ready to bite his head off.








To be effective as a friend, spouse, significant other, co-worker, manager, leader, or whatever role you’re playing at the moment, learning to manage your feelings is a critical step toward living a happy, successful, and fulfilled life.








Managing your feelings doesn’t mean that you repress them. It means that you become aware of what’s going on inside of you, own your feelings as your own, heed the message that they have for you, and act responsibly.








What is emotional mastery? Emotions are often described as energy in motion. They become problems only when we judge them as wrong, bad, or inappropriate. When we let our emotions run us, we miss the message that they carry. When we stuff them down for fear of what they might cause us to do, they simply lie in wait to emerge with a vengeance later on. Emotional mastery is the ability to process our emotions so that we receive their message and use their energy for appropriate action.








Our emotions are a reflection of our beliefs about life events. For example, if you believe that you are your work and you suddenly lose your job, you are likely to feel an incredible amount of fear, as you perceive your very survival to be at stake. If you repress this fear, you’ll probably experience anger or rage and at some point, you will likely lash out at whoever s available.








If on the other hand, you are a person who views your job simply as one aspect of your life, and you know that your inherent value lies in your unique skills and qualities, then your feelings and response to losing your job will probably be a whole lot different. You may just view this loss as an opportunity to explore a whole new path for yourself.








The bottom line here is this: how you feel in any situation corresponds exactly with what you believe about yourself and the situation. Master your beliefs, and you’ll master your emotions.








Knowing that you can change how you feel simply by changing how you think about each experience is a powerful concept. If you feel upset about something, ask yourself, “How can I reinterpret this event in a such a way that I can feel good or at least OK about it?” If you have a bill you can’t pay for example, instead of getting upset, decide that this is an opportunity to redesign your financial life. Ask for help, develop a plan, and use your energy to get moving on it.








How you think about your emotions adds another layer. We often give ourselves a double whammy when we get upset about feeling upset. Here are some positive ways to interpret the purpose of our basic emotions, set down by Peter McWilliams in his book, “Do It.”








– Fear is the energy to do your best in a new situation.








– Guilt is the energy for personal change-it is anger directed toward ourselves, and anger is the energy for change.








– Unworthiness keeps us on track–just as we can have anything we want, we can’t have everything we want. So too, we are worthy of anything we want, but we may not be worthy of everything we want.








– Hurt feelings are a reminder of how much we care.








So how can you use this information in your life? I suggest that you examine any beliefs you hold around emotions and the situations that trigger them.








Begin to cultivate present moment awareness as your emotions arise. Just notice them and look at them, not as good or bad, but simply with curiosity, and with the question, what’s this energy for and how do I choose to use it?








Practice. Begin the practice of observing emotions when they arise and identify any judgments you might have about them.








Focus instead on listening to the message they hold for you. Then, act on this message by expressing the emotion in a positive fashion.








Source
















Friday, 10 October 2014

Master Your Beliefs, Master Your Emotions


by: Steve Davis




Joe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. Your face flushes and your knuckles whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. Some part of you knows that this feeling is not proportionate to Joe’s comment or intention, but something was triggered in you nonetheless, and you’re ready to bite his head off.




To be effective as a friend, spouse, significant other, co-worker, manager, leader, or whatever role you’re playing at the moment, learning to manage your feelings is a critical step toward living a happy, successful, and fulfilled life.




Managing your feelings doesn’t mean that you repress them. It means that you become aware of what’s going on inside of you, own your feelings as your own, heed the message that they have for you, and act responsibly.




What is emotional mastery? Emotions are often described as energy in motion. They become problems only when we judge them as wrong, bad, or inappropriate. When we let our emotions run us, we miss the message that they carry. When we stuff them down for fear of what they might cause us to do, they simply lie in wait to emerge with a vengeance later on. Emotional mastery is the ability to process our emotions so that we receive their message and use their energy for appropriate action.




Our emotions are a reflection of our beliefs about life events. For example, if you believe that you are your work and you suddenly lose your job, you are likely to feel an incredible amount of fear, as you perceive your very survival to be at stake. If you repress this fear, you’ll probably experience anger or rage and at some point, you will likely lash out at whoever s available.




If on the other hand, you are a person who views your job simply as one aspect of your life, and you know that your inherent value lies in your unique skills and qualities, then your feelings and response to losing your job will probably be a whole lot different. You may just view this loss as an opportunity to explore a whole new path for yourself.




The bottom line here is this: how you feel in any situation corresponds exactly with what you believe about yourself and the situation. Master your beliefs, and you’ll master your emotions.




Knowing that you can change how you feel simply by changing how you think about each experience is a powerful concept. If you feel upset about something, ask yourself, “How can I reinterpret this event in a such a way that I can feel good or at least OK about it?” If you have a bill you can’t pay for example, instead of getting upset, decide that this is an opportunity to redesign your financial life. Ask for help, develop a plan, and use your energy to get moving on it.




How you think about your emotions adds another layer. We often give ourselves a double whammy when we get upset about feeling upset. Here are some positive ways to interpret the purpose of our basic emotions, set down by Peter McWilliams in his book, “Do It.”




– Fear is the energy to do your best in a new situation.




– Guilt is the energy for personal change-it is anger directed toward ourselves, and anger is the energy for change.




– Unworthiness keeps us on track–just as we can have anything we want, we can’t have everything we want. So too, we are worthy of anything we want, but we may not be worthy of everything we want.




– Hurt feelings are a reminder of how much we care.




So how can you use this information in your life? I suggest that you examine any beliefs you hold around emotions and the situations that trigger them.




Begin to cultivate present moment awareness as your emotions arise. Just notice them and look at them, not as good or bad, but simply with curiosity, and with the question, what’s this energy for and how do I choose to use it?




Practice. Begin the practice of observing emotions when they arise and identify any judgments you might have about them.




Focus instead on listening to the message they hold for you. Then, act on this message by expressing the emotion in a positive fashion.




Source







Wednesday, 8 October 2014

Master Your Beliefs, Master Your Emotions

by: Steve Davis


Joe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. Your face flushes and your knuckles whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. Some part of you knows that this feeling is not proportionate to Joe’s comment or intention, but something was triggered in you nonetheless, and you’re ready to bite his head off.


To be effective as a friend, spouse, significant other, co-worker, manager, leader, or whatever role you’re playing at the moment, learning to manage your feelings is a critical step toward living a happy, successful, and fulfilled life.


Managing your feelings doesn’t mean that you repress them. It means that you become aware of what’s going on inside of you, own your feelings as your own, heed the message that they have for you, and act responsibly.


What is emotional mastery? Emotions are often described as energy in motion. They become problems only when we judge them as wrong, bad, or inappropriate. When we let our emotions run us, we miss the message that they carry. When we stuff them down for fear of what they might cause us to do, they simply lie in wait to emerge with a vengeance later on. Emotional mastery is the ability to process our emotions so that we receive their message and use their energy for appropriate action.


Our emotions are a reflection of our beliefs about life events. For example, if you believe that you are your work and you suddenly lose your job, you are likely to feel an incredible amount of fear, as you perceive your very survival to be at stake. If you repress this fear, you’ll probably experience anger or rage and at some point, you will likely lash out at whoever s available.


If on the other hand, you are a person who views your job simply as one aspect of your life, and you know that your inherent value lies in your unique skills and qualities, then your feelings and response to losing your job will probably be a whole lot different. You may just view this loss as an opportunity to explore a whole new path for yourself.


The bottom line here is this: how you feel in any situation corresponds exactly with what you believe about yourself and the situation. Master your beliefs, and you’ll master your emotions.


Knowing that you can change how you feel simply by changing how you think about each experience is a powerful concept. If you feel upset about something, ask yourself, “How can I reinterpret this event in a such a way that I can feel good or at least OK about it?” If you have a bill you can’t pay for example, instead of getting upset, decide that this is an opportunity to redesign your financial life. Ask for help, develop a plan, and use your energy to get moving on it.


How you think about your emotions adds another layer. We often give ourselves a double whammy when we get upset about feeling upset. Here are some positive ways to interpret the purpose of our basic emotions, set down by Peter McWilliams in his book, “Do It.”


– Fear is the energy to do your best in a new situation.


– Guilt is the energy for personal change-it is anger directed toward ourselves, and anger is the energy for change.


– Unworthiness keeps us on track–just as we can have anything we want, we can’t have everything we want. So too, we are worthy of anything we want, but we may not be worthy of everything we want.


– Hurt feelings are a reminder of how much we care.


So how can you use this information in your life? I suggest that you examine any beliefs you hold around emotions and the situations that trigger them.


Begin to cultivate present moment awareness as your emotions arise. Just notice them and look at them, not as good or bad, but simply with curiosity, and with the question, what’s this energy for and how do I choose to use it?


Practice. Begin the practice of observing emotions when they arise and identify any judgments you might have about them.


Focus instead on listening to the message they hold for you. Then, act on this message by expressing the emotion in a positive fashion.


Source



Sunday, 5 October 2014

Celebrating You




“I am Fabulous”: Embracing and Celebrating You







by: Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC








“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha








“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”







Marianne Williamson








You are Fabulous! Yes YOU are. How do you feel when you hear that? Do you respond, yes that is right, I am Fabulous. Or do you have a reaction that blocks you from taking this statement in fully. If you are like most people you may not be able to take this in whole heartedly for various reasons. One, it may interrupt your inner litany of you telling yourself all the ways that you are less than fabulous—all the ways that you are messing up in some way, falling short of yours or other people’s expectations. You may have trouble taking in “I am fabulous” because you fear if you do that other people will think your arrogant and self-centered.








Why Self-Love is So Important








1. Seeing your own beauty and light allows you to see others more clearly. The fear that people have when they first start working on self-love is that they confuse it with being self-centered and arrogant. We all have within us an essence, a radiant Spirit that is filled with love, joy, creativity, compassion and beauty. When you really get that and are able to see this within you—you are able to see it within everybody. You can see beneath people’s protections of fear, negativity and anger and see the truth of who they are—the light of who they are.








2. Seeing your own Magnificence allows Good things into your Life. If you love and value yourself you will want good things for yourself and you will take action to bring these good things into your life. An example is if you are in a job that you don’t love—if you cared about yourself and your happiness you would take action to find a job or career that you really love. You wouldn’t allow yourself to be in an unloving situation in any area of your life. All the things that you would want for a person you deeply loved, you would want these things for yourself too.








3. Seeing your own Fabulousness allows others to see that in you too. People tend to see us and treat us how we see and treat ourselves. If you really value yourself and treat yourself kindly other people will pick up on this energy and treat you well too. An example of this: Do you know people you would never say anything disrespectful to because they emanate a sense of self-confidence and self-respect—it is so clear you can feel it.








4. When you see your own Brilliance you become a role model for people to see their own Brilliance. Our own self-love has a positive ripple effect on others—by providing a role model for healthy self-love and also energetically opening a space for people to love themselves just by being in our presence.








Ways to Love Yourself More








Take responsibility for seeing your own worth and lovability. Do you realize that your worth and lovability is intact and unchanging? Nothing you can do can ever take away from it—it is your intrinsic worth and can never be diminished. There is nothing to be improved upon and enhanced—you already are brilliant and magnificent just as you are. The real you, your Authentic Self, is here to just express itself fully and completely.








There is a distinction made between your Essence, who you really are– and your protective parts, your Ego. When you are in worry, judgment, fear, anxiety, depression, trying to control—these are all protective parts of you. If you are operating out of your protective self most of the time, you won’t feel the beauty of your essence and neither will those around you. Once you know that you really are your essence, this beautiful light—self-love is a natural consequence and you can relax and let this light shine!








Eliminate Self-Judgment and replace with Self-Supportiveness and Self-Appreciation. Your level of self-love will be dependent on the kind of internal dialogue you are having with yourself. We are all having inner conversations with ourselves throughout the day—these conversations are either loving and supportive or critical and unloving. The following are ways to shift to a more positive inner dialogue:








A. Think of statements that you want to hear throughout the day and write these on a 3X5 index card. They could be statements like “I love you just the way you are” “Just be you, you are wonderful” “I love you no matter what” “It’s OK to make mistakes, I will still love you” “Let go of what others think of you–I think you are amazing” Use these statements with yourself during the day.








B. Mirror back loving statements to yourself about who you are and how you handle things throughout the day. Examples of these statements are “I love the way you handled that situation” “You are so loving and kind” You are so creative!” “You are such a good listener” “You are brilliant” “You are sweet”. Mirroring back the positive will help you reverse the pattern of being critical with yourself for every little thing you do.








C. Talk back to the Critical Voice and bring in the Truth. If you catch yourself being critical respond back with a loving voice. If you say to yourself “I’m so stupid, I can’t believe I just said that” you can respond back by saying “It’s OK, you’re not stupid, what you said was just fine, just relax and be yourself, let go what that person thinks of you, I love you no matter what.”








D. Write 5 Appreciations about yourself each night in your journal. This can be ways you handled certain situations, how loving you were with others, your creativity, the special unique qualities that are YOU!








Start a “Celebration of Me” Journal. Get a beautiful journal that you can collect sweet notes and cards you receive from others. When the people around you have their hearts open and are sharing love with you—they are seeing the beauty of your essence. These loving cards and notes are reminders of who you really are and it can be helpful to have these in a lovely journal. You can even jot down loving comments people make to you and you can add these to your journal.








Take Loving Actions on your own behalf. If you tell yourself you love and care about you but you treat yourself poorly—your self-esteem will stay low. You must take actions that reflect a deep love for yourself. If you were to show love to yourself, you would exercise if you needed to lose weight, you would get to sleep early if you needed more rest, if your life was chaotic you would create balance, if you needed to leave an unhealthy relationship, you would leave it. Taking these loving actions can create a major shift in increasing your self-love significantly.








You are Fabulous—it is a given—and it is up to you to see it for yourself. By doing this you will radically improve the quality of your life, your relationships and even pave the way for others to see their own Magnificence too!








About The Author








Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC is a pioneer in the Holistic Psychotherapy field. She specializes in Transformational individual counseling, Presentations and Workshops. For her free Workbook “What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion” and free monthly tele-classes visit her web-site at http://ift.tt/1jWYlGQ















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Celebrating You


“I am Fabulous”: Embracing and Celebrating You



by: Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC




“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha




“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”



Marianne Williamson




You are Fabulous! Yes YOU are. How do you feel when you hear that? Do you respond, yes that is right, I am Fabulous. Or do you have a reaction that blocks you from taking this statement in fully. If you are like most people you may not be able to take this in whole heartedly for various reasons. One, it may interrupt your inner litany of you telling yourself all the ways that you are less than fabulous—all the ways that you are messing up in some way, falling short of yours or other people’s expectations. You may have trouble taking in “I am fabulous” because you fear if you do that other people will think your arrogant and self-centered.




Why Self-Love is So Important




1. Seeing your own beauty and light allows you to see others more clearly. The fear that people have when they first start working on self-love is that they confuse it with being self-centered and arrogant. We all have within us an essence, a radiant Spirit that is filled with love, joy, creativity, compassion and beauty. When you really get that and are able to see this within you—you are able to see it within everybody. You can see beneath people’s protections of fear, negativity and anger and see the truth of who they are—the light of who they are.




2. Seeing your own Magnificence allows Good things into your Life. If you love and value yourself you will want good things for yourself and you will take action to bring these good things into your life. An example is if you are in a job that you don’t love—if you cared about yourself and your happiness you would take action to find a job or career that you really love. You wouldn’t allow yourself to be in an unloving situation in any area of your life. All the things that you would want for a person you deeply loved, you would want these things for yourself too.




3. Seeing your own Fabulousness allows others to see that in you too. People tend to see us and treat us how we see and treat ourselves. If you really value yourself and treat yourself kindly other people will pick up on this energy and treat you well too. An example of this: Do you know people you would never say anything disrespectful to because they emanate a sense of self-confidence and self-respect—it is so clear you can feel it.




4. When you see your own Brilliance you become a role model for people to see their own Brilliance. Our own self-love has a positive ripple effect on others—by providing a role model for healthy self-love and also energetically opening a space for people to love themselves just by being in our presence.




Ways to Love Yourself More




Take responsibility for seeing your own worth and lovability. Do you realize that your worth and lovability is intact and unchanging? Nothing you can do can ever take away from it—it is your intrinsic worth and can never be diminished. There is nothing to be improved upon and enhanced—you already are brilliant and magnificent just as you are. The real you, your Authentic Self, is here to just express itself fully and completely.




There is a distinction made between your Essence, who you really are– and your protective parts, your Ego. When you are in worry, judgment, fear, anxiety, depression, trying to control—these are all protective parts of you. If you are operating out of your protective self most of the time, you won’t feel the beauty of your essence and neither will those around you. Once you know that you really are your essence, this beautiful light—self-love is a natural consequence and you can relax and let this light shine!




Eliminate Self-Judgment and replace with Self-Supportiveness and Self-Appreciation. Your level of self-love will be dependent on the kind of internal dialogue you are having with yourself. We are all having inner conversations with ourselves throughout the day—these conversations are either loving and supportive or critical and unloving. The following are ways to shift to a more positive inner dialogue:




A. Think of statements that you want to hear throughout the day and write these on a 3X5 index card. They could be statements like “I love you just the way you are” “Just be you, you are wonderful” “I love you no matter what” “It’s OK to make mistakes, I will still love you” “Let go of what others think of you–I think you are amazing” Use these statements with yourself during the day.




B. Mirror back loving statements to yourself about who you are and how you handle things throughout the day. Examples of these statements are “I love the way you handled that situation” “You are so loving and kind” You are so creative!” “You are such a good listener” “You are brilliant” “You are sweet”. Mirroring back the positive will help you reverse the pattern of being critical with yourself for every little thing you do.




C. Talk back to the Critical Voice and bring in the Truth. If you catch yourself being critical respond back with a loving voice. If you say to yourself “I’m so stupid, I can’t believe I just said that” you can respond back by saying “It’s OK, you’re not stupid, what you said was just fine, just relax and be yourself, let go what that person thinks of you, I love you no matter what.”




D. Write 5 Appreciations about yourself each night in your journal. This can be ways you handled certain situations, how loving you were with others, your creativity, the special unique qualities that are YOU!




Start a “Celebration of Me” Journal. Get a beautiful journal that you can collect sweet notes and cards you receive from others. When the people around you have their hearts open and are sharing love with you—they are seeing the beauty of your essence. These loving cards and notes are reminders of who you really are and it can be helpful to have these in a lovely journal. You can even jot down loving comments people make to you and you can add these to your journal.




Take Loving Actions on your own behalf. If you tell yourself you love and care about you but you treat yourself poorly—your self-esteem will stay low. You must take actions that reflect a deep love for yourself. If you were to show love to yourself, you would exercise if you needed to lose weight, you would get to sleep early if you needed more rest, if your life was chaotic you would create balance, if you needed to leave an unhealthy relationship, you would leave it. Taking these loving actions can create a major shift in increasing your self-love significantly.




You are Fabulous—it is a given—and it is up to you to see it for yourself. By doing this you will radically improve the quality of your life, your relationships and even pave the way for others to see their own Magnificence too!




About The Author




Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC is a pioneer in the Holistic Psychotherapy field. She specializes in Transformational individual counseling, Presentations and Workshops. For her free Workbook “What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion” and free monthly tele-classes visit her web-site at http://ift.tt/1jWYlGQ







The post Celebrating You appeared first on Robert JR Graham.




Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Celebrating You

“I am Fabulous”: Embracing and Celebrating You

by: Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC


“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha


“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

Marianne Williamson


You are Fabulous! Yes YOU are. How do you feel when you hear that? Do you respond, yes that is right, I am Fabulous. Or do you have a reaction that blocks you from taking this statement in fully. If you are like most people you may not be able to take this in whole heartedly for various reasons. One, it may interrupt your inner litany of you telling yourself all the ways that you are less than fabulous—all the ways that you are messing up in some way, falling short of yours or other people’s expectations. You may have trouble taking in “I am fabulous” because you fear if you do that other people will think your arrogant and self-centered.


Why Self-Love is So Important


1. Seeing your own beauty and light allows you to see others more clearly. The fear that people have when they first start working on self-love is that they confuse it with being self-centered and arrogant. We all have within us an essence, a radiant Spirit that is filled with love, joy, creativity, compassion and beauty. When you really get that and are able to see this within you—you are able to see it within everybody. You can see beneath people’s protections of fear, negativity and anger and see the truth of who they are—the light of who they are.


2. Seeing your own Magnificence allows Good things into your Life. If you love and value yourself you will want good things for yourself and you will take action to bring these good things into your life. An example is if you are in a job that you don’t love—if you cared about yourself and your happiness you would take action to find a job or career that you really love. You wouldn’t allow yourself to be in an unloving situation in any area of your life. All the things that you would want for a person you deeply loved, you would want these things for yourself too.


3. Seeing your own Fabulousness allows others to see that in you too. People tend to see us and treat us how we see and treat ourselves. If you really value yourself and treat yourself kindly other people will pick up on this energy and treat you well too. An example of this: Do you know people you would never say anything disrespectful to because they emanate a sense of self-confidence and self-respect—it is so clear you can feel it.


4. When you see your own Brilliance you become a role model for people to see their own Brilliance. Our own self-love has a positive ripple effect on others—by providing a role model for healthy self-love and also energetically opening a space for people to love themselves just by being in our presence.


Ways to Love Yourself More


Take responsibility for seeing your own worth and lovability. Do you realize that your worth and lovability is intact and unchanging? Nothing you can do can ever take away from it—it is your intrinsic worth and can never be diminished. There is nothing to be improved upon and enhanced—you already are brilliant and magnificent just as you are. The real you, your Authentic Self, is here to just express itself fully and completely.


There is a distinction made between your Essence, who you really are– and your protective parts, your Ego. When you are in worry, judgment, fear, anxiety, depression, trying to control—these are all protective parts of you. If you are operating out of your protective self most of the time, you won’t feel the beauty of your essence and neither will those around you. Once you know that you really are your essence, this beautiful light—self-love is a natural consequence and you can relax and let this light shine!


Eliminate Self-Judgment and replace with Self-Supportiveness and Self-Appreciation. Your level of self-love will be dependent on the kind of internal dialogue you are having with yourself. We are all having inner conversations with ourselves throughout the day—these conversations are either loving and supportive or critical and unloving. The following are ways to shift to a more positive inner dialogue:


A. Think of statements that you want to hear throughout the day and write these on a 3X5 index card. They could be statements like “I love you just the way you are” “Just be you, you are wonderful” “I love you no matter what” “It’s OK to make mistakes, I will still love you” “Let go of what others think of you–I think you are amazing” Use these statements with yourself during the day.


B. Mirror back loving statements to yourself about who you are and how you handle things throughout the day. Examples of these statements are “I love the way you handled that situation” “You are so loving and kind” You are so creative!” “You are such a good listener” “You are brilliant” “You are sweet”. Mirroring back the positive will help you reverse the pattern of being critical with yourself for every little thing you do.


C. Talk back to the Critical Voice and bring in the Truth. If you catch yourself being critical respond back with a loving voice. If you say to yourself “I’m so stupid, I can’t believe I just said that” you can respond back by saying “It’s OK, you’re not stupid, what you said was just fine, just relax and be yourself, let go what that person thinks of you, I love you no matter what.”


D. Write 5 Appreciations about yourself each night in your journal. This can be ways you handled certain situations, how loving you were with others, your creativity, the special unique qualities that are YOU!


Start a “Celebration of Me” Journal. Get a beautiful journal that you can collect sweet notes and cards you receive from others. When the people around you have their hearts open and are sharing love with you—they are seeing the beauty of your essence. These loving cards and notes are reminders of who you really are and it can be helpful to have these in a lovely journal. You can even jot down loving comments people make to you and you can add these to your journal.


Take Loving Actions on your own behalf. If you tell yourself you love and care about you but you treat yourself poorly—your self-esteem will stay low. You must take actions that reflect a deep love for yourself. If you were to show love to yourself, you would exercise if you needed to lose weight, you would get to sleep early if you needed more rest, if your life was chaotic you would create balance, if you needed to leave an unhealthy relationship, you would leave it. Taking these loving actions can create a major shift in increasing your self-love significantly.


You are Fabulous—it is a given—and it is up to you to see it for yourself. By doing this you will radically improve the quality of your life, your relationships and even pave the way for others to see their own Magnificence too!


About The Author


Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC is a pioneer in the Holistic Psychotherapy field. She specializes in Transformational individual counseling, Presentations and Workshops. For her free Workbook “What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion” and free monthly tele-classes visit her web-site at http://ift.tt/1jWYlGQ



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Thursday, 18 September 2014

The Unaskable Question

Proof Of The Afterlife?

by: Bob Daulby


Almost 20 years ago, I began researching the Ouija Board to see if there was any validity or proof that could be gained from it that would benefit us all. At the time, I have to say that, like most people, I too had been deeply influenced by rumours that such devices are evil, not to be trusted or, at the very least, questionable. However, through a previous study of hypnosis, I also became very aware of self-delusion, self-fulfilling prophecies, belief and fantasy so well that it became an easy task for me to opt for the middle ground. Thus, for me to approach this tool of spirit communication with an open mind – the mind between belief and non-belief – wasn’t a problem. And so, in the winter months of 1985, with eight people around my first board, my research began.


It was after a ponderous and shaky start that, after a lot of patience, three people – already passed over, one after the other, dropped in to speak to me. And although they provided me with enough proof of their existence to sink a battleship yet, it still wasn’t quite enough for my mind to accept that I was actually speaking to real people from beyond the grave. However, with ‘Debbie’ all of this was to change.


“Is there anyone there?” I asked. On my old board – now ‘The Spirit Contact Board©’ (which is far superior) – the usual responses were slow in forming. But, as I say, with a little patience, it soon made sense when the board replied:


“DEBBIE”


“Hello Debbie.” I said, “What can we do for you?”


“PASS THE DOPE”


“Pardon? Did you say ‘pass the dope’ Debbie?


“YES”


“What dope are you talking about? We don’t have dope in this house.”


At the time, Marijuana was very much outlawed and, with two young children in the house, such chemicals – and the sure problems with Police that were bound to follow, was not permitted anywhere near my family or my home. However, the reply to this remark was:


“YOU DO”


Even if this were to be true, in my mind, there could be only one reason that there was any kind of outlawed drug in my home back then and that would have to be that someone around the table had got some and hadn’t said so. Other than this, there was no chance of their being any kind of this type of drug in the home. So I asked,


“Ok. You say that there is dope in this house. Could you tell me where it is please?”


“UNDER CHAIR”


“Oh right. ‘Under a chair’. I’m sorry Debbie but I think you’re mistaken. There isn’t any dope under any chair in this house Ok?”


“THERE IS”


I then asked everyone around the table if they had any dope and that, if they had then to please own up and put an end to this. But there was no need to ask for they all felt the same as me about it.


“As you can see Debbie – at least, I think you can – no one here has got any dope. So, if they haven’t got any then, how can there be any under any chair? Are you sure you’re not pulling my leg?”


“NO. DOPE UNDER CHAIR”


I was getting rather bored with this so I sighed and asked, “Ok. Which chair is it under please?”


Although I have mentioned that there were eight people around that board that night yet I must add that as they were sat yet I was stood at the back taking notes and that, my finger was never on that glass.


“CHAIR NEAR YOU”


“You mean this one on my left?”


“YES”


“You’re joking! There’s no way that there’s any dope under that chair. No one sits in it but me Debbie and I don’t use the stuff. Ok. Don’t bother answering that. Let me check and prove you wrong Ok?”


OK. TRY”


“I will!”


With that, I put down my notes and moved the chair.


Now, in being a lazy couple back then, neither my wife nor myself ever vacuumed under either chair. Like a lot of people, we hovered around them to then get on with other things – like watching TV etc. So, when I moved the chair and, much to our embarrassment, there was almost enough dust and debris there that could have coated a bald Bear! In any event, in ignoring our red faces, I bent down and started to sift through it to show Debbie – and everyone else – that there wasn’t a hope of her being right.


But, to my utter incredulity, she was!


When I had finished sifting through all the rubbish, right there, in my fingertips was a small rolled up piece of silver paper. Inside this foil was a small piece of dope that must have been there I don’t know how long.


“How on EARTH did you know this Debbie!?” I exclaimed.


“FELL OUT OF (A name I can’t mention) POCKET”


“Well I never! I can’t believe my own eyes here! Look everyone! Tell me this isn’t dope!” But, when they all looked at it, they all recognised that it indeed was. “Unbelievable! How could this have anything to do with any ideomotor effect? How could any of us have ever thought of pushing the glass around – even unconsciously – to spell out something so very far fetched as this? Dope? In MY house? Never!” To make matters even more incredulous, the person she mentioned hadn’t set foot in my house for over twelve months prior to this communication!


Was this proof enough for us? Of course it was. But the story didn’t end there for; we had yet even more shocking news – and proof – to come from Debbie that continued on until the early hours of that night. Further information revealed… But wait; there is something you need to know first.


At that time, I was in the habit of going around to a friend’s house on Tuesday nights for what we called ‘Computer Nights’. It was back in the Commodore 64 days before most of us even thought of owning a PC. As far as the general public was concerned, such masterful multi-tasking machines had yet to be invented. Now, I don’t know if you’re the same as me but, for me, although I may make a friend yet, unless the topic is brought up, rarely will I come to know if he or she has any brothers or sisters. And, with him being the same with me, he didn’t know this about me either. However, unbeknownst to my friend, I had some shocking news in wait that would turn him right over when I saw him the following Tuesday.


It was as we were sat playing that I brought up the subject of family. After I had told him of mine, I asked him about his to which his reply was that he had had two sisters.


“What do you mean by ‘had’ two sisters ‘D’?


“Oh? Didn’t you know? I lost one a few years back.”


“Really? Ok. Can I try something with you?”


“What’s that?”


“You know that I didn’t know you had any family until I asked you didn’t you?”


“Yeah? So what?”


OK. Supposing I fill in the gaps for you? If I do that then, will you believe me that my board works and that the afterlife really does exist after all?”


He laughed and said, “You can try if you like but it won’t do you any good.”


“Oh don’t let that worry you. Ok. Let’s start at the beginning. You haven’t told me yet but I’m going to tell you that the sister you had, was named ‘Debbie’. Is that right?”


He was drinking from a can at the time and nearly spilled the lot when, ashen-faced, he turned to me and yelled, “How did you know that!?”


“Let me finish Ok? I’m right aren’t I? So, let me think now. How did she die? Well, I’ll tell you. She was hitching a ride to London in which she managed to hitch a ride from a truck driver. Since the truck driver didn’t get his wicked way, he threw her out of his truck. As you and I now both know, like your older sister Helen – who is still with us – Debbie liked her drugs didn’t she? She liked Heroin. So, when the truck driver threw her out, he had no idea that she was as high as a kite. Anyway, he was in such a temper about not getting his way that he stopped the truck immediately. Without even thinking about it, he had inadvertently thrown her out on the fast lane. Since Debbie wasn’t at all sober, she wondered around that lane not knowing what she was doing. Moments later, a fast car came and drove over her killing her outright. When she died, Debbie was 18. Is there anything I’ve said ‘D’ that was wrong?”


My friend was at a complete loss as to what to say or do. He didn’t say a word to me for over an hour and was at a complete loss for words. By the look on his face, I knew that everything I had just said was true and that no detail was wrong. In any event, when he did manage to gain control of himself, he verified every word.


Two weeks later, in knowing I was still up, he phoned me at two in the morning and he was crying. When I asked him what the matter was (he doesn’t cry) it took him everything to tell me that, since our conversation, he had been overcome with the loss of Debbie. He went on to add that, when she had been so tragically killed like this, his whole family, parents and all, had all but blocked it from their minds. Although they had a funeral for her and all had turned up yet, for them, such a thing hadn’t really happened. They told themselves that, since Debbie always hitched everywhere that, this is where she is ‘out there’ somewhere, still alive and having too much fun to come home. At that point, he begged me to drive him to her grave.


NDE

NDE (Photo credit: 6ril)



When we eventually found the graveyard in the dead of night in a small village nearby, it was dark, cold and very foggy. For over an hour and, with lighters in hand, he and I searched amongst the gravestones for where she could be. When we found her, he threw himself on her grave, held her headstone and sobbed his heart out.


“I loved you Debbie. I’m sorry I wasn’t much of a brother to you. But I loved you. I’m sorry. So sorry… I’m so sorry for everything…”


As he cried and released his obvious deep remorse and, although I didn’t view myself as being particularly psychic at the time yet, I swear I could feel Debbie holding him very tightly indeed as she cried along with him.


It was beautiful.


And, after such a good start that continued for the next 20 years, how many more adventures like this do you think I’ve had? How much more proof was given in that time. So much.


About The Author

Bob Daulby is a world renowned, global expert on matters of life after death, the greater life and Our Worlds Beyond. He has contacted and communicated with all kinds of entities from the spirit world, otherworldly beings as well as inter-dimensional entities and different time-lines. He can teach you to do the same in a very safe, sure and positive manner at: http://ift.tt/1fjmsgr so that everyone may glean limitless knowledge, love and understanding as well as adventures beyond dreams.






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