4 Keys to Moving Through Change

4 Keys to Moving Smoothly Through Change



by: Karin Syren

Change, which we so adroitly avoid, has three faces, alteration/modification, often imperceptible or limited, swapping/replacing, exchanging one distinct entity for another and transformation, movement from one distinct state or condition to another, often as a passage experience. This most unnerving face of change often throws us completely.

In Lewis Carroll’s Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, Alice, in her curious experiences, becomes familiar with transformation. Her size changes alone were so pronounced they have their own designation, transmogrification. Surely we can imagine her bewilderment and anxiety at these unsettling and highly disruptive changes.

Raised in the Victorian era, ever the polite child, Alice misses her opportunities to take control of this topsy-turvy world. What might Alice have done differently, or for that matter, any of us experiencing bewildering, unsettling experiences with transformation? Try these commonsense suggestions.

STOP AND TAKE STOCK

Alice missed her chance for this and consequently see-sawed from one alarming size to another. Once she chose to react in desperation, the possibility of mastering the unsettling circumstances of change flew out the window.

To avoid Alice‘s mistake, do what it takes to land on solid ground, however briefly. Stop the cycle of knee-jerk reaction and begin thinking in terms of planned response. The end result will prosper from a brief rationality break. But how do you gain that moment of clear thought when you are in the throes of the life altering circumstances?

If the transformation is external, try to step away briefly, temporarily removing yourself from the scene of the mayhem. It will still be there when you return, but you will be better able to deal with it.

If the change is internal, or the transformation is physical, try to withdraw your mind from the circumstances. I do not suggest that this is easy, but with some practice and perseverance, it is possible.

MOVE SLOWLY

Now that you have taken stock and you have moved some distance from emotional reaction and toward mental response, deliberate action is crucial. Did you ever try to walk on a moving train? That is very similar to the sensation of navigating transformation. Move slowly until you get the hang of it.

Do not be afraid to take time to consider each move carefully before executing it and then build on it, assessing the results before moving to the next.

If the transformation you are facing is of a fast-paced or emergency nature, it does not disallow this action. Talk with any skilled first responder, a fire fighter, paramedic or police officer who has learned to operate effectively in just this manner. Countless lives and futures repeatedly hang on their ability to function in just this way. Speed of response does not disqualify wisdom and careful consideration, but it does require practice.

Practice weighing options and making carefully considered decisions under normal conditions, before transforming change overtakes you. Train your brain exactly how you want it to perform under the challenging conditions of change.

MAINTAIN A SPOT OF FAMILIARITY

However small, visits to a spot that remains untouched by the transformation process will go a long way toward keeping you steady when the newness of the circumstances threatens to overwhelm you.

If the transformation is planned, of your own choosing, incorporate this step into the plan at the outset. It may not seem necessary to you when you are in the distant perspective of the blueprint stage, but you will be glad you made provision for a comfort station once your journey of transformation begins!

Do not skip this step. It may well be the difference between victory and failure in coming through transformation relatively unscathed.

Finally,

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED

When Alice decided to enter the mirror image world in Carroll’s Alice Through The Looking Glass, she would have done well to practice this. As soon as she noted that things were getting curiouser and curiouser, it was a sure sign that the unexpected was to be expected!

In his 1886 classic, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, Robert Louis Stevenson’s main character not only invites but engineers the appearances of his malevolent alter ego – in the name of science. However, he misses this all-important step when designing what is truly the grotesque transformation to his evil side, Mr. Hyde. He mistakenly expects to retain control of the separation between the two sides of his nature, but of course he cannot and the results are horrific.

Alice loses her ability to discern dream state from reality and her reactions reflect this. Dr. Jekyll fails to expect the unexpected. But if you have used periods of normalcy as practice ground for responding rather than reacting; if you have formulated a Vision of how you will handle yourself in times of change and upheaval, if you are prepared to move deliberately, then you will have prepared yourself to shine in your moments of passage.

You will maintain a clear-headed ability, discernment and control of yourself in the process, and may even find yourself standing at the helm and plotting the course for others as well as!

IN SUMMARY

* When you are planning transformative change, or as soon as you sense its approach, begin to look for a spot of familiarity or residual normalcy.

* Begin taking stock, recording your observations to better enable you to process them as the transformation progresses.

* Make no sudden moves, considering your responses carefully. Then expect to be surprised, knowing that the unexpected can be around any corner and is definitely the order of the day.

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4 Keys to Moving Through Change

4 Keys to Moving Smoothly Through Change

by: Karin Syren

Change, which we so adroitly avoid, has three faces, alteration/modification, often imperceptible or limited, swapping/replacing, exchanging one distinct entity for another and transformation, movement from one distinct state or condition to another, often as a passage experience. This most unnerving face of change often throws us completely.

In Lewis Carroll’s Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, Alice, in her curious experiences, becomes familiar with transformation. Her size changes alone were so pronounced they have their own designation, transmogrification. Surely we can imagine her bewilderment and anxiety at these unsettling and highly disruptive changes.

Raised in the Victorian era, ever the polite child, Alice misses her opportunities to take control of this topsy-turvy world. What might Alice have done differently, or for that matter, any of us experiencing bewildering, unsettling experiences with transformation? Try these commonsense suggestions.

STOP AND TAKE STOCK

Alice missed her chance for this and consequently see-sawed from one alarming size to another. Once she chose to react in desperation, the possibility of mastering the unsettling circumstances of change flew out the window.

To avoid Alice‘s mistake, do what it takes to land on solid ground, however briefly. Stop the cycle of knee-jerk reaction and begin thinking in terms of planned response. The end result will prosper from a brief rationality break. But how do you gain that moment of clear thought when you are in the throes of the life altering circumstances?

If the transformation is external, try to step away briefly, temporarily removing yourself from the scene of the mayhem. It will still be there when you return, but you will be better able to deal with it.

If the change is internal, or the transformation is physical, try to withdraw your mind from the circumstances. I do not suggest that this is easy, but with some practice and perseverance, it is possible.

MOVE SLOWLY

Now that you have taken stock and you have moved some distance from emotional reaction and toward mental response, deliberate action is crucial. Did you ever try to walk on a moving train? That is very similar to the sensation of navigating transformation. Move slowly until you get the hang of it.

Do not be afraid to take time to consider each move carefully before executing it and then build on it, assessing the results before moving to the next.

If the transformation you are facing is of a fast-paced or emergency nature, it does not disallow this action. Talk with any skilled first responder, a fire fighter, paramedic or police officer who has learned to operate effectively in just this manner. Countless lives and futures repeatedly hang on their ability to function in just this way. Speed of response does not disqualify wisdom and careful consideration, but it does require practice.

Practice weighing options and making carefully considered decisions under normal conditions, before transforming change overtakes you. Train your brain exactly how you want it to perform under the challenging conditions of change.

MAINTAIN A SPOT OF FAMILIARITY

However small, visits to a spot that remains untouched by the transformation process will go a long way toward keeping you steady when the newness of the circumstances threatens to overwhelm you.

If the transformation is planned, of your own choosing, incorporate this step into the plan at the outset. It may not seem necessary to you when you are in the distant perspective of the blueprint stage, but you will be glad you made provision for a comfort station once your journey of transformation begins!

Do not skip this step. It may well be the difference between victory and failure in coming through transformation relatively unscathed.

Finally,

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED

When Alice decided to enter the mirror image world in Carroll’s Alice Through The Looking Glass, she would have done well to practice this. As soon as she noted that things were getting curiouser and curiouser, it was a sure sign that the unexpected was to be expected!

In his 1886 classic, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, Robert Louis Stevenson’s main character not only invites but engineers the appearances of his malevolent alter ego – in the name of science. However, he misses this all-important step when designing what is truly the grotesque transformation to his evil side, Mr. Hyde. He mistakenly expects to retain control of the separation between the two sides of his nature, but of course he cannot and the results are horrific.

Alice loses her ability to discern dream state from reality and her reactions reflect this. Dr. Jekyll fails to expect the unexpected. But if you have used periods of normalcy as practice ground for responding rather than reacting; if you have formulated a Vision of how you will handle yourself in times of change and upheaval, if you are prepared to move deliberately, then you will have prepared yourself to shine in your moments of passage.

You will maintain a clear-headed ability, discernment and control of yourself in the process, and may even find yourself standing at the helm and plotting the course for others as well as!

IN SUMMARY

* When you are planning transformative change, or as soon as you sense its approach, begin to look for a spot of familiarity or residual normalcy.

* Begin taking stock, recording your observations to better enable you to process them as the transformation progresses.

* Make no sudden moves, considering your responses carefully. Then expect to be surprised, knowing that the unexpected can be around any corner and is definitely the order of the day.

Source

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Discovering Your Mission

Keys To Discovering Your Personal Mission

by: Karin Syren

Purpose is what you’re created for. Mission is what you’re meant to do about it.

Do I Have A Purpose?

You’re not alone if you’re facing the question of why you are here and what you are supposed to do about it. In order to begin the process of unwrapping yourself and realizing some answers, you must begin with the assumption that you are here for a purpose, that you are not a result of happenstance.

If you are concerned about stepping out on the uncertainty of an assumption, I invite you to try an exercise. For the next 24 hours, take note of all the assumptions you act upon each day – without certain knowledge or proof that they are dependable.

For instance, you assume the alarm will go off just because you set it and it went off yesterday and the day before – assumption. You assume the train will arrive on the platform at the same time today as yesterday, though you surely have experienced interruptions in the schedule. Yet you plan your morning around the assumption.

These assumptions and many more like them are at the base of countless plans you make each day. So just suppose that you’re not here for a purpose and you’re not part of a greater plan, but you have based your actions toward others and your plans for the future on your belief that there was a plan. How fruitful and fulfilling would your life have become, based on this assumption, true or not? How much value would you have added to the lives of those around you, having lived your life based on this assumption?

Millions, perhaps billions of people struggle through life with no thought what to do with themselves, no design. Decisions concerning education, career, vocation, marriage, and family are a source of constant stress and confusion – and all because they have never been able to perceive of themselves as part of a plan, as a gift to their world.

Though definitely not immune, people of faith have less trouble with the basics in this area. But you needn’t wait for all the answers; you can begin to be a gift to those who occupy your corner of the world right now – today. Assuming that the sheer number of earth’s inhabitants is a clue to your purpose, make a conscious decision to focus less on yourself and your questions, your uncertainties, your desires and begin to notice those around you in a way unrelated to you and your perceived needs. Begin to interact with them on the basis of their needs, not your own.

The word mission comes from the Latin mittere, to send, and it is the beginning of the adventure. Once we have accepted that we have a purpose, that we are not an accident, then we can begin the process of discovering what we’re to do about it. If that’s a daunting exercise, let’s begin with a few questions:

What are Your Gifts and Talents?

Everyone is born with talent. You may be unaware of your unique talents, simply because talents are so much a part of us that they often seem hardly worth mentioning. Begin the process by asking yourself what you have always been able to do with little effort? What do friends and family continually ask you to do over everyone else? What activities are you consistently drawn to? Write these down and begin to actively pursue opportunities to exercise them. Just as you were born with muscle, but you need to work each muscle for it to reach maximum efficiency, so it is with talents.

Gifts on the other hand can be viewed as equipment, often not appearing until later in life as our direction begins to unfold. For this reason, we are generally very aware of our gifts. Once identified, begin to think of these as tools. Look at each area in which you are gifted and see how you can combine your gifts with your talents.

What Fascinates You?

What do you never tire of discussing? Your ears perk up when someone across the room begins to discuss it; you stop your channel surfing when you come across it on television. You may have a shelf full of books on the subject. Whether you have ever actively pursued it or not, the subject is of perennial interest.

What’s Your Passion?

Finally, each person has a fire burning in them, though for some the fires have been allowed only to smolder. What is it that would flare up and burn brightly if you gave it the slightest opportunity? Is it a cause, a vocation, or perhaps there’s a book or a painting, just waiting for you to give it some time to appear. Whatever it is that you find yourself daydreaming about, consider giving it an opportunity to come to front of your life.

Begin by keeping a journal, because as soon as you begin to ask yourself these questions, the answers will start to emerge – be prepared to record them. Answering these questions, putting the pieces together as they appear is the beginning of the process of uncovering your personal mission, what you’re here to do – your destiny.

So make the decision to move away from the familiar and into your adventure as only you were equipped to.

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4 Keys to Moving Through Change

4 Keys to Moving Smoothly Through Change

by: Karin Syren

Change, which we so adroitly avoid, has three faces, alteration/modification, often imperceptible or limited, swapping/replacing, exchanging one distinct entity for another and transformation, movement from one distinct state or condition to another, often as a passage experience. This most unnerving face of change often throws us completely.

In Lewis Carroll’s Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, Alice, in her curious experiences, becomes familiar with transformation. Her size changes alone were so pronounced they have their own designation, transmogrification. Surely we can imagine her bewilderment and anxiety at these unsettling and highly disruptive changes.

Raised in the Victorian era, ever the polite child, Alice misses her opportunities to take control of this topsy-turvy world. What might Alice have done differently, or for that matter, any of us experiencing bewildering, unsettling experiences with transformation? Try these commonsense suggestions.

STOP AND TAKE STOCK

Alice missed her chance for this and consequently see-sawed from one alarming size to another. Once she chose to react in desperation, the possibility of mastering the unsettling circumstances of change flew out the window.

To avoid Alice‘s mistake, do what it takes to land on solid ground, however briefly. Stop the cycle of knee-jerk reaction and begin thinking in terms of planned response. The end result will prosper from a brief rationality break. But how do you gain that moment of clear thought when you are in the throes of the life altering circumstances?

If the transformation is external, try to step away briefly, temporarily removing yourself from the scene of the mayhem. It will still be there when you return, but you will be better able to deal with it.

If the change is internal, or the transformation is physical, try to withdraw your mind from the circumstances. I do not suggest that this is easy, but with some practice and perseverance, it is possible.

MOVE SLOWLY

Now that you have taken stock and you have moved some distance from emotional reaction and toward mental response, deliberate action is crucial. Did you ever try to walk on a moving train? That is very similar to the sensation of navigating transformation. Move slowly until you get the hang of it.

Do not be afraid to take time to consider each move carefully before executing it and then build on it, assessing the results before moving to the next.

If the transformation you are facing is of a fast-paced or emergency nature, it does not disallow this action. Talk with any skilled first responder, a fire fighter, paramedic or police officer who has learned to operate effectively in just this manner. Countless lives and futures repeatedly hang on their ability to function in just this way. Speed of response does not disqualify wisdom and careful consideration, but it does require practice.

Practice weighing options and making carefully considered decisions under normal conditions, before transforming change overtakes you. Train your brain exactly how you want it to perform under the challenging conditions of change.

MAINTAIN A SPOT OF FAMILIARITY

However small, visits to a spot that remains untouched by the transformation process will go a long way toward keeping you steady when the newness of the circumstances threatens to overwhelm you.

If the transformation is planned, of your own choosing, incorporate this step into the plan at the outset. It may not seem necessary to you when you are in the distant perspective of the blueprint stage, but you will be glad you made provision for a comfort station once your journey of transformation begins!

Do not skip this step. It may well be the difference between victory and failure in coming through transformation relatively unscathed.

Finally,

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED

When Alice decided to enter the mirror image world in Carroll’s Alice Through The Looking Glass, she would have done well to practice this. As soon as she noted that things were getting curiouser and curiouser, it was a sure sign that the unexpected was to be expected!

In his 1886 classic, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, Robert Louis Stevenson’s main character not only invites but engineers the appearances of his malevolent alter ego – in the name of science. However, he misses this all-important step when designing what is truly the grotesque transformation to his evil side, Mr. Hyde. He mistakenly expects to retain control of the separation between the two sides of his nature, but of course he cannot and the results are horrific.

Alice loses her ability to discern dream state from reality and her reactions reflect this. Dr. Jekyll fails to expect the unexpected. But if you have used periods of normalcy as practice ground for responding rather than reacting; if you have formulated a Vision of how you will handle yourself in times of change and upheaval, if you are prepared to move deliberately, then you will have prepared yourself to shine in your moments of passage.

You will maintain a clear-headed ability, discernment and control of yourself in the process, and may even find yourself standing at the helm and plotting the course for others as well as!

IN SUMMARY

* When you are planning transformative change, or as soon as you sense its approach, begin to look for a spot of familiarity or residual normalcy.

* Begin taking stock, recording your observations to better enable you to process them as the transformation progresses.

* Make no sudden moves, considering your responses carefully. Then expect to be surprised, knowing that the unexpected can be around any corner and is definitely the order of the day.

Source

Related articles

• Make the Transformation


• Adapt And Die: Dr. Jekyll And Mr. Hyde


• The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde by Robert Louis Stevenson


• One Life. Lived.


• Happy Birthday, Bram Stoker! Everyone’s Still Re-Writing Your Book.


• Palmiotti and Gray Corral The Black Diamond in “All-Star Western”


• critical analysis prompts for alice in wonderland


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• The Magic of Bookstores.


• Home: the familiar, revisited

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• Peace In Troubled Times


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• Powerful Keys to Personal Transformation


• 13 Spiritual Principles

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